Question for the Ladies regarding appointments

[i_land_her]

Thanks, you're probably right. Good info.

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

Personally....I am not concerned with whether or not a Gent has Verified Hobbyist status here. It's just not part of my personal screening process.

If I accepted references as part of my screening, it probably would make me more comfortable if he was Verified. But I don't.

When I get a PM, text, or phone call from a guy saying something like:
"I want to see you, but I do not want to follow your directions for screening. I'm a nice, clean white guy with money to spend and lots of references." It's an automatic NO from me.

1. MY body. MY screening. Period.
2. Nice guys don't have to tell you they are nice. They just ARE nice.
3. "clean" is sometimes a red flag that they want BB service.
4. Stating that he is "white" like being Caucasian should make him better just pisses me off. Coupled with the word "clean" just makes it MUCH MUCH more offensive.
5. Dangling money like a carrot makes my pussy dry up in less time than it takes to read the words.
6. Once again, he is disregarding and disrespecting my requirements. Which tells me he does not give a damn about my boundaries or my personal comfort level.

^^^^ This is NOT directed at you, OP. This is just an example of what I would (and have) considered an automatic NO upon first contact.

While I agree that "silence is your answer", that's just not how I handle telling a Gent that I do not wish to see him.

"Good luck in your search and have a nice day" is my nice way of saying "I'd rather be starving and homeless than spend time in your presence." LOL

[jacksparrow]

It's obvious she doesn't want to see you, do not beg, move on, plenty of pussy out here..

[i_land_her]

Jacksparrow....

Glad to hear from you bud... It's been a long time. I'm on to the next one. I just posted to get the opinion of other ladies on the board and to what they look for. This was meant for my knowledge and the to help out some of the new guys on here.

[Guest 101723-1]

Personally, if you have references or pass my alternate screening then you’re good to go.

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

^^^ This. Provide the info I ask for and respect my time and my personal choices and all is well.

[i_land_her]

Thanks. I cometely understand how this process work since I have been on the hobby since 2004. I was very active on ASPD AND Horndogs but not so much on Eccie and OH2 since I took a long break. I said I am a nice guy strictly to back up the statement that I am never rude or obnoxious on the board. I also stay away from drama.

I never come across arrogant or refuse to provide the necessary information for screening. As I said in my post I'm over it, just looking to see what different ladies are looking for when deciding on if they will see a new client.

Anyhow she did finally respond and it confirmed my decision that I have moved past the desire to see her.. Like everyone has said, there are tons of beautiful and fun ladies on the board and I they are mostly welcoming. I will coninue to see them. Thanks for all the response.

ILH

[RoboCock]

Personally....I am not concerned with whether or not a Gent has Verified Hobbyist status here. It's just not part of my personal screening process.

If I accepted references as part of my screening, it probably would make me more comfortable if he was Verified. But I don't.

When I get a PM, text, or phone call from a guy saying something like:
"I want to see you, but I do not want to follow your directions for screening. I'm a nice, clean white guy with money to spend and lots of references." It's an automatic NO from me.

1. MY body. MY screening. Period.
2. Nice guys don't have to tell you they are nice. They just ARE nice.
3. "clean" is sometimes a red flag that they want BB service.
4. Stating that he is "white" like being Caucasian should make him better just pisses me off. Coupled with the word "clean" just makes it MUCH MUCH more offensive.
5. Dangling money like a carrot makes my pussy dry up in less time than it takes to read the words.
6. Once again, he is disregarding and disrespecting my requirements. Which tells me he does not give a damn about my boundaries or my personal comfort level.

^^^^ This is NOT directed at you, OP. This is just an example of what I would (and have) considered an automatic NO upon first contact.

While I agree that "silence is your answer", that's just not how I handle telling a Gent that I do not wish to see him.

"Good luck in your search and have a nice day" is my nice way of saying "I'd rather be starving and homeless than spend time in your presence." LOL

Krystal, just a comment on your points 3 & 4 because it's interesting that these are red flags for you; Many of us have BBBJ as a requirement, and it's a deal breaker if the girl won't offer it, so I usually state that I'm clean and have recent STD tests to hopefully put her at ease. I also state up front that I'm white because that's usually the next question a girl asks.

Here's my typical introductory text: "Hello (insert name), I saw your ad/profile here: (insert URL) and would like to meet you. What is the donation for an hour and what side of town are you on? I'm a clean, nice looking older white guy."

I offer these points up front to cut down on the amount of texting back & forth, and so I won't get accused of wasting her time. I didn't realize they could be potential red flags for some girls!

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

LOL You will rarely see me attempting to speak for anyone other than myself and MY thoughts and opinions.

I posted what MY deal breakers and red flags are. The OP asked the question of providers. I answered. :shrug:

In my opinion, if she doesn't have her limitations - race preference, menu, rates, etc. - clearly posted in her ads and/or profile....stating/asking about those things in an introductory communication is absolutely understandable and should be expected.

( Having said that....I guess I should start posting how little I give a damn about skin color in more than just the "FAQ" on my website lol Thanks for the reminder, I'll get my profile and sig line edited today. ;-P )


Personally, I feel like my time is being "wasted" when I am contacted with a bunch of questions that I have already answered several times in my ads, profile, signature line, and website.

I know I come across as a bit of a bitch when I say stuff like this. But over all these years, I have learned from personal experience what to consider a "red flag".
And because I listen to my gut on these points, it is VERY RARE that I have a less than enjoyable time with my clients.

This is how I stay happy, sane, and enjoying what I do. :)

[RoboCock]

Hopefully this isn't drifting the thread too much, but I think all of us hobbyists would like to improve our "batting" average, ie turning an introductory text into an encounter.

So what are some other "red flags" that put providers off, or makes you nervous when a new guy contacts you?

[Universal]

Biggest red flag, HE WON'T read or listen.:nono

[Elmer Fudge]

I personally haven't had any issues seeing a lady. The first two were a bit challenging, but after that it has been smooth sailing and I haven't yet invested in p411. Something with them calling my job to establish my identity has me a tad bit concerned. But in all it's really been a blast so far knock on wood.

[Dextermorgan]

I think it’s unprofessional to not at least respond. If you tell us no, no big deal, but if we send all our info, it deserves a response.

[Asapbeard]

I think it’s unprofessional to not at least respond. If you tell us no, no big deal, but if we send all our info, it deserves a response.

If you sent RW info yes, but other than that no one owes anyone a response. Take silence as a response.

[Dorthy Monroe]

Here's my typical introductory text: "Hello (insert name), I saw your ad/profile here: (insert URL) and would like to meet you. What is the donation for an hour and what side of town are you on? I'm a clean, nice looking older white guy."

I offer these points up front to cut down on the amount of texting back & forth, and so I won't get accused of wasting her time. I didn't realize they could be potential red flags for some girls!

You would cut down on all the back and forth if you actually took the time to read her ads and any other information in which she puts out there! Tards who write unnecessary details automatically end up on my DNS list!