Screening....

[RoboCock]

A well worn subject but apparently a lot of us guys still don't "get it". The girls need to screen us to try and ensure they're not letting a serial killer, weirdo or cop into their incall.

Most of them put their screening requirements in their About Me's, in their ads, or elsewhere where it's plainly visible, and we still don't get it. Two of my provider friends were complaining to me yesterday that they're still getting PM's from guys here saying stuff like "What's your availability this afternoon? Need rates & menu." No screening info provided at all and the PM's are from guys with zero posts here, and sometimes aren't even Verified.

What we hobbyists need to wake up & recognize is that screening is becoming as common as condom usage, and it's not enough to just provide references. The girls typically need references, age, race & cell number, and only after they've checked us out will they come back and agree to schedule.

Some girls who are VERY careful (paranoid) may not even answer questions about rates/menu/location until after they've screened you because they don't know for sure you're not a cop and they don't want to put anything in print that could be used against them.

So if we're looking for a "last minute" booking today with a girl who has screening requirements, it probably ain't gonna happen.

What I've started doing with girls that I've never seen before is in my first PM I'll give them a brief introduction, my age, race, cell number and links to 2 or 3 providers I've seen recently and then ask for information that will make or break the session for me. (BBBJ?, DATY?)

[DocHoliday]

There is no rhyme or reason to what screening methods a lot of the ladies are doing. If you try to understand it, it is more likely than not going to give you a headache trying to understand the un-understandable. I hope you understand.

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

There's plenty of reason....even if it doesn't "rhyme" with how you think things should happen.

OR is spot on correct about why we screen. It's to keep us safe, free, and seeing only those GENTLEMEN we want to see.

If she doesn't have her screening requirements/process in her profile or ads, I think OR's way of first contact is perfect. But guys really do need to at least make an effort to READ before contacting and wasting his time (not to mention the provider's) messaging someone that has requirements that he can't or won't comply.

[JessieJane]

There is no rhyme or reason to what screening methods a lot of the ladies are doing. If you try to understand it, it is more likely than not going to give you a headache trying to understand the un-understandable. I hope you understand.

^^^ Everything she said !

Times have changed and especially gents who want to access a PRIVATE location usually do comply with screening. It is only the ones who think that they dont have to listen to providers requests/instructions that bump their head.

Most guys I chat with have NO PROBLEM helping me get them verified quickly.

[Anna Nikkole]

I have often wondered about last minute appointments. I take them, and I get it. You drive somewhere and sitting in your car, have exactly 1 hour to pm, ask, drive to and see someone before heading back to the wifey. Many of my regulars appreciate me for the ability to see me last minute if my time permits.

Newbies sometimes it takes a bit. Too many questions (without reading first), don't want to screen the easy way and that's ok it takes longer for the provider to put together a list of providers to message. Sometimes they answer, sometimes they don't.

No rhyme or reason. In no particular order. Each provider is different.

I also try to empathize from the gents perspective as well. I know it can be frustrating. Get you a list of ladies you can see at your pace (last minute or well in advance). Different people like different things.

[DocHoliday]

There's plenty of reason....even if it doesn't "rhyme" with how you think things should happen.

OR is spot on correct about why we screen.

If I may clarify. I’m saying that the ladies are not using cookie cutter screening methods. You ladies are not a monolithic group. What methods you use may not be the same as the next lady. If the gentlemen think they can screen the exact same way with all the ladies, they will be in for an awakening and a headache if they cookie cut screening information.

I hope this clarifies where I was going in my post.

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

^^^ Everything she said !

Times have changed and especially gents who want to access a PRIVATE location usually do comply with screening. It is only the ones who think that they dont have to listen to providers requests/instructions that bump their head.

Most guys I chat with have NO PROBLEM helping me get them verified quickly.

It amazes me how many entitled hobbyists just don't understand my need for the information I require to feel safe enough to give my private location.

In the same breath..."NEVER give providers your RW info" and "NEVER invite providers to your home" LMAO

Yeah, we (private incall providers) need RW info for the same reasons you don't trust us to know where you live. SAFETY!!!
They understand the reasons from their point of view, but just can't seem to wrap their heads around our POV. Which is the same.

Talk about the "un-understandable" smh

[Elmer Fudge]

This is a precarious hobby any way you shake it. I myself have had an extremely precarious situation with a ladies “management “ that could have gone extremely badly, thankfully I got out of the situation unscathed to a certain extent. And my idea of unscathed is I’m not dead or in jail.This was not on our home, it was like early 90’s seeing a lady at one of the strip clubs. I’ve had another experience where I walked into a private incall, apartment, go in to the bedroom and the closet door moved and not by a gust of wind. I was on time and she let me in. This was a lady off backpage. Needles to say I got the hell out of there, down the road the lady called to say it was her female roommate who overslept then jumped in the closet as to not spook me, could I please come back.

Ummmmm beautiful something just came up at work so I’m going to have to take a rain check, but hey you are gorgeous and I definitely wouldn’t mind seeing you again. I’m never going to completely burn a bridge, but why in her right frame of mind would she think I would come back after experiencing that. Then another encounter off airport, where horny me lol, calls a lady off of backpage, goes to a motel of airport and 45. (Old me will never see a lady off of that strip). Get there, go up to the third floor, all the while going past several guys who looked like a combination of Boyz in the hood and hustle and flow. I just held my head up high whilst shitting in my underwear lol. Get there and there is a lady sleeping in the other bed. Ummm okay, the lady gets my donation then wakes the girl up to give it to her. I honestly had a great session but you guys can see how that could have turned out disastrously.

I mean you see my point. Just because we are men doesn’t take away the fact that we are going into an unknown environment ourselves with our own concerns and sometimes not thoroughly thinking lol, due to male arousal. So this thread can definitely be construed both ways as gents have to be extremely cautious about getting as much information as possible on a prospective encounter. The whole thing I believe here is everyone do their due diligence in regards to their comfort level and respect the need for whatever one wants for their peace of mind. Happy hobbying.

[RoboCock]

Good counterpoint Elmer, but the point of the thread is that we guys are ignoring or just not bothering to read the ladies' screening requirements here on OH2 and we get bent out of shape when they decline to see us at the last minute? Come on guys, get real!!

If I had "any" interest/intention of seeing a certain provider, I would make dam sure I got pre-screened a week or two in advance so it wouldn't turn into a last minute clusterf&ck, when the mood hits.

[Anna Nikkole]

Good counterpoint Elmer, but the point of the thread is that we guys are ignoring or just not bothering to read the ladies' screening requirements here on OH2 and we get bent out of shape when they decline to see us at the last minute? Come on guys, get real!!

If I had "any" interest/intention of seeing a certain provider, I would make dam sure I got pre-screened a week or two in advance so it wouldn't turn into a last minute clusterf&ck, when the mood hits.

Sometimes that's when the mood hits. And sometimes on scheduling day the mood is non existent.

Such is life

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

Good counterpoint Elmer, but the point of the thread is that we guys are ignoring or just not bothering to read the ladies' screening requirements here on OH2 and we get bent out of shape when they decline to see us at the last minute? Come on guys, get real!!

If I had "any" interest/intention of seeing a certain provider, I would make dam sure I got pre-screened a week or two in advance so it wouldn't turn into a last minute clusterf&ck, when the mood hits.

Whether it's the same day, day before, week before, or just an hour before. You are making the most important point.....

!!!!!!READ!!!!! the information she provides and then provide the information she requires.

If it's info you don't want to give....MOVE ON to someone who's requirements you are comfortable with.

[Ben Rhimene]

!!!!!!READ!!!!! the information she provides and then provide the information she requires.

If it's info you don't want to give....MOVE ON to someone who's requirements you are comfortable with.

I could not agree more. If it is one thing I hate more than wasting your time it is wasting mine.

I have had a few situations where I have sent along info, gotten the reference check done, and agreed upon a time, only to get an email to the effect of "before I can confirm you need to send me X" where X was various RW info. That was frustrating. Made me think they wanted me so far into the process I would abide. Needless to say I did not.

[Kymbella Ryder]

Whether it's the same day, day before, week before, or just an hour before. You are making the most important point.....

!!!!!!READ!!!!! the information she provides and then provide the information she requires.

If it's info you don't want to give....MOVE ON to someone who's requirements you are comfortable with.

Yes!!!! It's such a waste of the guys' time & ours, PM'ing back & forth when all they have to do, like you say, is !!!!!!READ!!!!! the screening requirement and comply with it the first time. My screening is VERY simple and he could get all the info to me in his first PM, not dribble it in to me over the next 3-4. And let's face it, we're not all on here 24/7 so that makes the process take even longer.

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

My favorite (sarcasm) are the ones that PM me, tell me that they DID read my requirements but have no interest in complying. So they proceed to tell me exactly why they don't wish to comply and expect me to see them anyway based on their board presence and reputation (number of reviews they have posted).

So......You don't trust me with your RW info for my screening and safety even tho I have SEVERAL years of impeccable reputation for NEVER causing anyone trouble.

But I'm supposed to trust you with my private location and my body based solely on your online reputation? HUH?

Nope. I'm not a fan of double standards. Especially when it comes to my personal safety and freedom.

I have no hard feelings towards those that don't want to screen my way. Not at all. It's why I have my requirement CLEARLY stated in my profile and on my website.

Don't wanna do it my way, don't contact me at all. That's it. It's that easy. LOL

[Dzltech84]

And this here is why I like having p411, all I have to do send a pm and the provider has all the info she could ever need (okays, race, age, height, weight, phone number....)