Sorry but comparing what a gynecologist does to an escort is stretching oneself a wee bit thin.Originally Posted by Universal
Sorry but comparing what a gynecologist does to an escort is stretching oneself a wee bit thin.
Because you guys still don't recognize/respect that being an escort is a job.
And this right here, is why I don't date hobbyists.
I was being sarcastic, lol...next time it will be in parenthesis so y'all know. The point was made that work details aren't to be compared to an actual personal relationship. Some men think that relationships are only about sex. NOT!!!
Lust & Love are two different elements.
I would never manipulate a personal relationship based on sex. According to some of these conditions I read in this thread, the dude would (OWE $$)to his girlfriend for sex.
In the real world he doesn't pay his gf but when it comes to a sex worker he wants to change/alter the relationship.
Except you can pick and choose who you let book an appointment no? NBA policies?
I don’t think a gynecologist would have any issue dating a urologist and neither would I. A gynecologist isn’t “playing” around going around daty his patients or deriving sexual enjoyment from his job. They are there for medical reasons.
Ive always viewed relationships as both partners being equal. If your job requires you to be physically intimate with others, but emotionally exclusive with me, then why shouldn’t it be fair to see other providers for variety but still remain emotionally exclusive to you?
Both partners equal?
Are you going to be earning money and paying your bills with what you earn from your affairs?
Can I go outside my job and outside the relationship to get pleasured any time I want by anyone I want and NOT HAVE TO GET PAID FOR IT?
And I owe you no explanation or responsibility for your emotions when I fuck who I want on my spare time?
Cause that is what you are saying that you are allowed to do, and you are saying both partners are equal.
And how is that still being emotionally exclusive to a lady when you are not taking her feelings into consideration? And the lady no longer has to have consideration for yours.
And also, a gynecologist has medical reasons for working, but the ladies that do this work are just "playing' around?
That is what you think about ladies who do this job? We are just "playing" around? What we do isn't a serious job.
You guys still can't wrap your head around the fact that this is a job and this is what an escort does for work, and what's worse, is you have no respect for it and think it gives you a free ticket to run around on a lady who does this for a living and don't give a fuck about her emotions, cause she just "plays around" and doesn't have a real and serious job like a medical doctor.
And when you say a lady can pick and choose who she books an appointment with, do you think Brad Pitt or George Clooney is coming around to book appointments all day? What kind of men do you think we see all day?
^^^BINGO
I hope you understand he wasn’t disrespecting your job was looking at the difference between examining genitalia for medical reasons to having sexual intercourse.
Why does a medical worker earn the right of having their emotions and feelings respected in a personal relationship but an escort doesn't?
Because she had intercourse?
An escort has less rights in their personal relationships due to the nature of their work?
How is it any less of a job and why does one profession earn the right to be treated differently in the course of their personal relationship than the other?
So it’s ok for you to be physically unfaithful, but not your partner because it’s part of your job. Well hate to break it to you there are plenty of other jobs out there that don’t involve having to have sex. Plenty of providers have retired from the biz.
No one is disrespecting your profession or saying it’s not a serious job.
Sorry you find your clients ugly and unfuckable.
I seem to remember a certain provider mentioning that she finds the beauty in all her clients by looking in the inside, but can’t recall who it was
Probably the same reason male pornstars have a hard time finding relationships as well. Comes with the territory of the profession.
No you are saying its ok for a man to be physically unfaithful because of the job I do.
And I am telling you that if you believe in equality then I have the right to treat a man who treats me in that manner in just the same way.
I can fuck who ever I want on my own free time too and I don't have to get paid for it, I can even pay someone else if I want, cause that is what you are saying a man has a right to do to me.
But men sure don't like that when the shoe is on the other foot.
Yes, there are other jobs out there. So what you are saying is that in order for a man to respect that he cannot sleep around on me I must go out and get another job? How is that NOT disrespecting my profession when you are saying so long as I do this job I deserve to be fucked around on? How is that even respecting me as a person?
And you are the one saying my clients are ugly and unfuckable, not me. I like how you threw this last bit in because you basically saying a woman like me will never deserve monogamy so long as I choose to be a part of this profession and since you have clearly laid out how my job is not on a level playing field of other people with respectable professions, you are now going to attempt to take a low jab and throw in there that I also fuck ugly and unfuckable clients when I clearly never said any such thing?
Anything else you want to tell me about my job, my clients, or the lot I deserve in life?
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Does it come with the territory of the profession or does it come with attitude of people outside of the profession who maintain a failure to see how those within the profession deserve the same rights as others?
I could never in a million years imagine telling a man that because his job involves xyz, I now get a free pass to do abc.
If I felt a man held a of job of any sort that that somehow gave me a free pass to run around on him, I would leave him because if he wasn't man enough to stand up for himself and say that he deserved to be treated just like any other person that works in any other industry, I wouldn't be able to respect him. And if he allowed me to run around on him, then he doesn't respect himself.
If I can't respect him, then I damn sure don't love him.
My job doesn't define how I deserve to be treated as a human being, it is simply a means to put food on the table. And if a man can't respect that no matter what kind of job I do, I demand the same rights in a relationship as anyone who works any other job, then he can pack his shit and don't let the door hit him in his ass on the way out.
The problem is NOT my job...
Looks to me like porn stars are doing fine in relationships. Men know up front what they are getting into and they don't manipulate love for LUST
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You hit right on the head Chloe. I happen to disagree with Fallout4 , guess I am just different with my outlook on it than some of the gents on this board. Like I said I have dated women in this profession and knew damn well that is what they did for their living and was fine with it. I did not see other providers when I was dating them, not to say that every now and then they wouldn't bring a friend by so we could all have fun together but that is different if it is something they want to share with me. If I am with someone I have feeling for then I won't see anyone else. When I was married I completely gave up hobbying and didn't do it till after my divorce.
To be honest, I don't really think anyone within the hobby should be dating. It's too complicated. I think if people wanna date they both need to leave the hobby.
But it drives me bonkers to hear these guys say they would love to date a provider and that they also get a free pass to sleep around on them. Well of course that sounds like a great deal to them - free sex from the provider in the relationship and plus they want to go out and get pussy on the side!
They pretty much only think about what's in it for them and they don't give a shit about the lady they are sleeping around on.
And your statement - If I am with someone I have feelings for then I won't see anyone else.
I agree. If I am in love with someone then I don't want anyone else.
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