Escort girlfriend

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

This question should be asked in a civie forum.
I'd love to see those answers lol

I read some on reddit recently, and lots of civvies said they totally would. I Also read lots of threads there and on Quora about escorts getting married and men who married escorts.

I’m sure the majority of ppl on reddit aren’t going to chime in but may ppl asked question.

[grand1001]

One woman in here says...I have no interest in discussing my job once I go home....
Another one said that Tbone is a unicorn amongst men.

A couple of the women here want a relationship, but they have already painted all men (who they don't even know) with one broad brush before they meet them....and you better not ask them questions, because they have no interest in talking about anything in their job


Good luck to you in your quest for a relationship.

[chloevankatie]

One woman in here says...I have no interest in discussing my job once I go home....
Another one said that Tbone is a unicorn amongst men.

A couple of the women here want a relationship, but they have already painted all men (who they don't even know) with one broad brush before they meet them....and you better not ask them questions, because they have no interest in talking about anything in their job


Good luck to you in your quest for a relationship.

Except that we said we are not currently looking for relationships so we don't need any luck, did you not read that? I guess that part flew right over your head cause you see only what you want to see.

And what is this "you better not ask them"?

Who is them?

What broad brush are you using to paint us with?

And what is this about all men? I said I don't date hobbyists. You chose to leave that out too, to support your campaign of generalizations that are being used to stereotype escorts.

And yes, you could learn a lot from Tbone, who has been around a long time.

And you have been 9 years, you have 2 posts, one in this thread, and you are unverified?

Do you have any other generalizations you would like to make about the women here?

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

One woman in here says...I have no interest in discussing my job once I go home....
Another one said that Tbone is a unicorn amongst men.

A couple of the women here want a relationship, but they have already painted all men (who they don't even know) with one broad brush before they meet them....and you better not ask them questions, because they have no interest in talking about anything in their job


Good luck to you in your quest for a relationship.

I’m glad you can see how difficult it can be for us navigating creating a typical mutual bond with another.

Do I lie or tell the truth about my past/present? If so when.
Do I set hard boundaries?
Can I keep my mind off how this has gone in the past and not put that burden on this new person?

I think I’m general it’s very rare to finds a deep sturdy connection with some to intertwine with and get emotional and physical needs met with another. If you add this circumstance it’s nearly impossible.

Everyone has different needs and boundaries.

Ain’t no quest going on over here! I definitely was surprised I even met anyone I’d like to get to know better so I started trying to figure out how to navigate dating if I ever did. I still don’t know.

I enjoyed reading guys who either said yes I’ve done it and it was great and those who said hell no.
You know what you want/don’t want and that’s hot!

[grand1001]

That's a very good response, Jasmine. You make total sense.

[Avion Taylor]

Such an arrangement doesn’t work for a variety of reasons. I don’t know the statistics but I would say a very, very high percentage fail.

Never works for me! EVER! wish there was a way!

[Avion Taylor]

Not opposed to it at all. An escort is a woman and I'm attracted to women. I care about intelligence, compatibility, kindness, etc, as well as their bodies. The escorting is just one facet of their lives. Their profession. I would proudly go out with an escort. Plus, it would be fun to say "my girlfriend brings joy into the life of everyone she touches" with a knowing smirk.

However, if I were to have an escort as a girlfriend, there are rules that I have.

First, if she gets variety, I get variety. If she's able to have sex with other people, professional setting or not, then I get the ability to get some on the side, as well, without having to be guilt tripped. I have no desire to rub her face in this, though. Hell, if we connect enough, I may not even desire to do it. But I will have this open to me.

Second, I want to fuck her. I understand if you have a rough day at the office and you're not really in the mood. I'm more than willing to cut you some slack there from time to time. But you can't not fuck me. If I love you, I want to fuck you.

Last, I want at least one day a week where she doesn't work and that's exclusively for us. No work or work talk from either of us.

I think all of this is fair.

Love this idea!

[Peabody]

I tried it and it did work out like 50% of all relationships. She couldn’t Handel me caring about her providing and she really couldn’t handle me not caring about her providing.

[chloevankatie]

I tried it and it did work out like 50% of all relationships. She couldn’t Handel me caring about her providing and she really couldn’t handle me not caring about her providing.

I can see that. It just gets too complicated.

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

Love this idea!

+1 sounds like a decent set up.

Ok so question:

I’m curious if there can be “traditional” roles here?
By that I mean the guy pays all they’re(if living together)/her(she lives on her own) bills?

I saw some say they might date someone who makes half their income.
Personally, I don’t know why any woman would do that but to each their own (I guess I like my pool even smaller than necessary lol)

Again, who pays the bills?

Is escort girlfriend supposed to pay half the bills?

Would this create problems if escort gf agrees to and later feels like ‘wait, he’s spending money on other girls and I’m earning money from other guys and in a way giving it to him by contributing to a circumstance he would be already handling (paying all the bills plus paying companions) if I wasn’t in the picture’?

For me I guess you can surmise I want the guy to pay all the bills.

I’d do the domestic stuff since I do that anyway. Honestly this is ideal for me bc I can use my free time masterminding some other riches for us if it turns to a super solid commitment (barfed in my mouth a little) that is. Or at least when we broke up I wouldn’t feel all used up and have some money and new ventures in my bag.

What do you all say?
How does the money dynamic play out in the Max_Steel scenario?

[chloevankatie]

Is escort girlfriend supposed to pay half the bills?

Would this create problems if escort gf agrees to and later feels like ‘wait, he’s spending money on other girls and I’m earning money from other guys and in a way giving it to him by contributing to a circumstance he would be already handling (paying all the bills plus paying companions) if I wasn’t in the picture’?

For me I guess you can surmise I want the guy to pay all the bills.

If I have to pay half the bills and he is still in hobby visiting ladies, then I would definitely feel used like I was paying for his hobby habit. That would be negative in my book.

I would love for him to pay all the bills, and if he paid all the bills, then he could do whatever he wanted. But at the point, I would be a sugar baby so I am not sure escort girlfriend still applies.

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

I tried it and it did work out like 50% of all relationships. She couldn’t Handel me caring about her providing and she really couldn’t handle me not caring about her providing.

Lol human behavior is SO complicated right!

Ugh.

You’re so right. I mean, what does “it worked out” even mean??!??!??

So many ways to dissect it.

For me it’s not oh we made it til we’re both 100 and it was perfect.
My experiences have thought me that’s not always promised.
For me it would be nice to get as many emotional, mental, and physical needs met for as long as we could with someone I truly adore, until it is time to part for whatever reason. Which we both come out of it better than when we began.

As an escort, while it could be harder, finding this doesn’t to have to be so out reach bc I firmly believe everyone who desires/wants to give deeper intimacy can attain that. I think it really takes opening up your heart and mind to let that in when ready.

It’s wild how when you do the offers flood in. Like you might be trying to manifest that focused in one direction and suddenly you’re hit with it from all directions.

[Ebony Jasmine Love]

If I have to pay half the bills and he is still in hobby visiting ladies, then I would definitely feel used like I was paying for his hobby habit. That would be negative in my book.

Totally agree.

I would love for him to pay all the bills, and if he paid all the bills, then he could do whatever he wanted. But at the point, I would be a sugar baby so I am not sure escort girlfriend still applies.

I’m pretty sure if you’re still escorting, that is considered escort gf. I’m not from the mindset that of I’m committed to someone and they pay the bills I am to be considered a sugar baby. I’d just be a woman, who has a role in that man’s life, and that’s just to be a woman, bc everyone knows a woman’s presence in your life/home is priceless (for at least 2 and 1/2 weeks out of the month, so it’s preferable you travel for work, and often! lol).

I’m curious what the guys think.

[chloevankatie]

I’m pretty sure if you’re still escorting, that is considered escort gf.

I guess I was assuming if he was paying the bills, then I wouldn't be escorting.

So yeah, that is kinda what I was thinking, if he was paying the bills and I wasn't escorting, then I would be a sugar baby if he was still seeing other ladies. If he wasn't seeing other ladies then it would be traditional.

Complicated/confusing, lol.

[Ben Rhimene]

+1 sounds like a decent set up.

I’m curious if there can be “traditional” roles here?
Again, who pays the bills?

Is escort girlfriend supposed to pay half the bills?

I am going to handle this in reverse order.

Why does what the female does for a living impact the bill paying arrangement? Seems to me that aspect should be based on living arrangements and relative income, regardless of the source. If we make the same amount why should an escort girlfriend get a "free ride" versus a nurse or teacher girlfriend? What if you make more than me? I dunno. When I was part of a 2 income family everybody split household duties and the bills. I get if there is a drastic income differential and the wealthier wanted to live in a place which the less wealthy couldn't possibly pay 50% then of course the wealthier partner should shoulder more. It just seems to me that your vocation is not terribly relevant to how bills are shared (or aren't). I wouldn't overcomplicate something that is already complicated.

I think the whether or not he hobbies should NOT be linked to the money. Again, it complicates it. I totally see CVK not wanting to feel like she is paying for him to hobby. Flip it around: would you want him judging your hobby income as a "cause" of him not being able to do something he likes (golf) because you aren't contributing enough? Tying those things together will ALWAYS be a problem, even if nobody is in the hobby.

I think the Max Steele approach could work if both were very mature and calm. I CAN see it as just a business, but also know I would have some resentment she is enjoying other guys (and yes, while I know it is work it is not devoid of enjoyable moments). I do think some fairly detailed boundaries would need to be set...for BOTH.