Escort girlfriend

[Anna Nikkole]

CVK, I have never dated a client. I would never date someone who hobbies OFTEN. I got a text for a appointment and it was late, shooting the shit like I sometimes do made appointment for next day. We kept texting till he asked me to lunch. Then asked if I still wanted to see him as a client for pay. I let him know, it's one or the other. Not both. So we opted for lunch (a date). He just left his wife and was getting a itch scratched, I was good with that. The best date I have ever went on. Down to earth and we went on another and another and his only downfall except that there was no sexual chemistry (we didn't have sex other than oral 2x in 4 months). So we dated and he loved this strip club, I'm not bi but a beautiful woman doesn't intimidate me. It's entertainment, we had fun there. They would always guess I was a school teacher or a secretary and it was funny. But he would often bring up that my job didn't bother him, and I don't believe it did. I really don't.

So he is very OPEN and honest about getting these strippers numbers, I questioned it and he says it's a double standard since I get clients numbers. The ex wife wanted him back, I had insinuated he went to her house, he said same thing (double standard, I have no right to ask), then he told me during the Coronavirus he had texted asking the strippers if they did private shows, she said no and he brought up that he has many times asked them out to eat.

Now I don't think he was gonna bang, blow job at most from my experience with him, but honestly just to hang out. I honestly think he would have treated them with respect. But that was 3rd strike. I just ended it, I didn't wait around to hear AGAIN that it was a double standard. He was asking them to dinner that is a date!

In my traditional life and relationships my friends are our friends, your friends are our friends. And the strippers were not my friend.

It was sad because he had put himself in my future, such a fun guy. But I'm not desperate for love, I love myself enough to last. And I think he was surprised how fast I ended it. I'm glad he was honest, I'd rather he go get a $100 bj 3-4x a year and I would never have to know. I'm territorial and if you aren't mine, and mine only you need to pay me.

CVK, he thought he was getting that free pass...

Imagine a ****** loving herself so fucking much and knowing her worth?

I'll also say another thing that I love and hate.

Porn!

The porn industry gets guys horny and they call me, winning..... (In business anyways)

Porn: It also gives guys false expectations.

I get that a man loves strange, but I also know that a man in love and attracted to his woman will be devoted to her.

I've had those guys who hobby 2x a year, no kiss or eating pussy, just a simple session and gets the itch scratched. I am glad he can go home and be in love with his woman. He used me as a vessel, got what he needed to hold him over, went home and catered to her and his household.

I'll get off my soapbox now

[Jasmine Starr]

I was being sarcastic, lol...next time it will be in parenthesis so y'all know. The point was made that work details aren't to be compared to an actual personal relationship. Some men think that relationships are only about sex. NOT!!!
Lust & Love are two different elements.
I would never manipulate a personal relationship based on sex. According to some of these conditions I read in this thread, the dude would (OWE $$)to his girlfriend for sex.
In the real world he doesn't pay his gf but when it comes to a sex worker he wants to change/alter the relationship.

I'm not talking about a relationship where the boyfriend also pays for the sex.

[Jasmine Starr]

I think this may be a part of the problem. The only way to understand this fairly is to put ourselves in the ladies frame of mind. OK, they provide with 2 customers during the day, fucking in 10 different positions from plain ole missionary to swinging by the ceiling fan. Perhaps they want something more intimate, more like making love, and having actual passion. This is one way the boyfriend of a provider can meet her needs. Us gentlemen aren't ATMs and the ladies aren't machines either. They have hearts and needs just like us guys do.

Let's dig a bit deeper. Let's say all the guys are providers. Now we get a text to see an unknown lady. I guess there is someway to quickly verify if she's not a cop, I just don't know. So we get a room and meet the lady and take a chance she isn't a cop. Next she's 70 years old, 5 foot tall, and weighs 300 pounds, and hasn't showered in two days. Now big boy, get it up and do what she wants you to do for the next 30 minutes. Just being honest, this can't be easy. Then at another time you get an appointment for 8pm, you pay for the room and she doesn't show up. This is just a small sample size what the ladies go through sometimes on a daily basis.

One of the ladies mentioned their clients aren't Brad Pitt or George Clooney. Me, I'm midway between Quasimodo and Brad Pitt, leaning toward Brad Pitt.

Am I kissing the ladies asses and white knighting? That's not my intent, as my intent was to turn the coin over and look at the other side.

Amen

[kerwil]

A relationship with an escort??

Nope, never have, never will.

[Latina4me]

Never have, never will.

[Jasmine Starr]

My girlfriend is a provider. I have never been a client, of hers or anyone else. She is a fantastic, intelligent, independent, and very sexy woman. What she does for work is not the same as what we do in the bedroom (or living room, or kitchen, ...). We have had times where the relationship has been open, and we have sex with other people because it gives us something we want. We have had times where the relationship is closed, and although she is doing the sex for clients it is very much a service job. It may be a job she cares about, that she treats professionally, and finds fulfillment and satisfaction in doing - but those encounters are happening because the clients are spending. It is complicated. We work at it because we are worth it and we want to. Every relationship is different, every person has insecurities, flaws they need to work on, and things about their partners that aren't perfect. For me, her job isn't a flaw or something to overcome - it is something to be proud of. She makes people feel amazing while they are with her and great about themselves after they part. I support her in her profession and I'm her biggest cheerleader in every respect. Just my two cents.

Thumbs up to you, sir!

[Ms.Athena]

My girlfriend is a provider. I have never been a client, of hers or anyone else. She is a fantastic, intelligent, independent, and very sexy woman. What she does for work is not the same as what we do in the bedroom (or living room, or kitchen, ...). We have had times where the relationship has been open, and we have sex with other people because it gives us something we want. We have had times where the relationship is closed, and although she is doing the sex for clients it is very much a service job. It may be a job she cares about, that she treats professionally, and finds fulfillment and satisfaction in doing - but those encounters are happening because the clients are spending. It is complicated. We work at it because we are worth it and we want to. Every relationship is different, every person has insecurities, flaws they need to work on, and things about their partners that aren't perfect. For me, her job isn't a flaw or something to overcome - it is something to be proud of. She makes people feel amazing while they are with her and great about themselves after they part. I support her in her profession and I'm her biggest cheerleader in every respect. Just my two cents.

Oh MY!!! Do you have a twin? lol.
What you two have is based on Respect. Trust. and Love. Whether hobby or RW this is what all relationships need. More power to you both...Im on the lookout for a Fluffy Knight to come riding in on his olo pick up truck...lol

[Preggolover89]

But its baffling how folks can accept that for an OB/GYN, it really becomes nothing more than a job, but for ladies here it's can't possibly be just a job.

If I go to the bar and get drunk, do I assume the bartender is getting drunk too just cause he is in the same room?

Or is he there, just doing his job?

I'll posit a theory:
- it seems as if sex is for a job, it should not be a big deal (in many provider's opinions in this thread)
- however, I'm getting the impression if sex is for pleasure, you would consider it cheating

Why is it that sex to gain money as opposed to sex to gain pleasure is ok? Isn't one just as important as the other?

BTW, I'm 100% ok with any provider I'm dating having sex with whoever she wants for pleasure if I am as well. I would expect any relationship with a provider to be open because if her having for her job doesn't affect our relationship / emotional dynamic, neither should EITHER (not only me) of us having sex for pleasure do so, as long as we have a healthy sex life together as well.

[chloevankatie]

I'll posit a theory:
- it seems as if sex is for a job, it should not be a big deal (in many provider's opinions in this thread)

Because the title of the thread is "Escort Girlfriend". If you date an escort, she is doing her job.

I know y'all still can't wrap your heads around this.

BTW, I'm 100% ok with any provider I'm dating having sex with whoever she wants for pleasure if I am as well. I would expect any relationship with a provider to be open because if her having for her job doesn't affect our relationship / emotional dynamic, neither should EITHER (not only me) of us having sex for pleasure do so, as long as we have a healthy sex life together as well.

I can dig it. If both people want to go outside the relationship and have sex for pleasure, then so be it.

Personally, I am not a fan of open relationships because I feel they get too complicated, that is just my personal opinion on it. Like I said before, when it comes to the hobby, I think both people should just leave if they really want the relationship to work.

But if an open relationship works for other people out there and they are happy, then I am all about people being happy with that.

I mean, I am not gay, but if gay people are being gay, then they should do what makes them happy.

If open relationship people are happy being open, then so be it.

Whatever floats your boat.

[wanna_be_rode]

Yall are killing me ( in a zoom meeting had to kill the cameras as i was lol )
i also ran out of popcorn about halfway through the thread..

i wonder how many people were put on a DNS list or were added to a MS list

[chloevankatie]

Yall are killing me ( in a zoom meeting had to kill the cameras as i was lol )
i also ran out of popcorn about halfway through the thread..

i wonder how many people were put on a DNS list or were added to a MS list

Mr. Steel sent me a PM and said he wants to get married.

J/k ;)

I got some interesting PM's, but I am still not coming out of coronavirus quarantine.

It's probably gonna be even harder for you guys to wrap your heads around this, but I am going on almost 3 months without penis since I quarantined myself.

Maybe I should just join a convent at this point?

[Ben Rhimene]

Maybe I should just join a convent at this point?

I thought you already had...

Any plans to re-open your economy?

[chloevankatie]

I thought you already had...

Any plans to re-open your economy?

I do own a naughty nun outfit. Maybe I should take pictures?

I am keeping an eye on the cases. I am thinking about putting my toe back in the hobby waters maybe around the second week of June. Memorial Day was the first big holiday where everyone was out and about post lockdown and I am waiting two weeks from Memorial Day to see if there is a surge of cases. Sadly, I feel the accuracy of reporting cannot be trusted but the impact so far has been minimal on lower age brackets, so it could possibly be safe to come out and play again.

[Ben Rhimene]

I do own a naughty nun outfit. Maybe I should take pictures?

Maybe you should let one of us shoot you, so you can concentrate on looking pious.

I suppose that could be habit forming (sorry...been reading too many of George's greek puns).

I am keeping an eye on the cases. I am thinking about putting my toe back in the hobby waters maybe around the second week of June. Memorial Day was the first big holiday where everyone was out and about post lockdown and I am waiting two weeks from Memorial Day to see if there is a surge of cases. Sadly, I feel the accuracy of reporting cannot be trusted but the impact so far has been minimal on lower age brackets, so it could possibly be safe to come out and play again.

The feet guys will be thrilled.

My hunch is Second Wave numbers will be bad in July. Ease restrictions, first summer holiday, bad decisions, and by mid-July the circle of contamination has raged for 6 weeks and 2 holidays. Hell, right now I am in an area with <50 cases in tri-county area and bartender was telling me how wild the place was on Memorial Day.

[Anna Nikkole]

I want a partnership. People say I'm losing my dignity, and I say "ok as long as I have something to show for it". I feel great about what I do because I now can see my future. So this is a scenario. Just read really slow ok.....


We are together and married and in love. You work for "whatever" and make 70k a year. I provide because we have discussed what it can do for OUR FUTURE. I make 165k a year. We have big plans. You have your schedule and work alot of hours, I have my schedule to always take time out for you, home every night, sober and we agree that if I can work sober "with no habits" then fine. Sometimes I come in and I'm tired, even sore. But I have 1800 to add to our cause, home, business we are building together. I want love, you love me because I'm doing what so many lazy ass sorry women on welfare can't and won't do. I want support and a intelligent conversation. No calling outside my name when we are angry.

As we are working hard and I'm doubling your progress for our lives, you fuck around on me? Because you allow me to work and put more bread in than you can? You allow me to be the main investor in our lives so you get a pass?

This is why I'll stay single. As a provider we make double what middle class makes. With the right provider you could go far, but you lump us together into trash pile and we have to accept that YOU NEED VARIETY while we need money.

I'll jump off my soap box, but so many are not at my level. I have enough greatness to be shared, but as CVK said I'll wait till I retire so I can be a normal person and seek normal love. But when I do, I'll have plenty of assets. I'll never hate this hobby. I'll always be thankful to this hobby and to so many gentlemen who have met with me and tell me they see potential in me. I'm thankful to the sweethearts I have met truly.

Happily single and sleep well knowing nobody is cheating on me