Why do most ladies have a no review policy?

[The Infamous One]

Is it the risk of legal implications or just a new trend?
I just followed suit after being out of the hobby for a long time. When I came back on the scene, all the cool kids were doing it or rather not doing it.

What's the risk vs reward, in laymen terms? I get pissed that I have so many yet can't really show them to anyone.

I feel I've earned my stars and stripes, but when you change your moniker and pop in and out over the course of the years where everything is changing, it makes it hard to know if I should just say to hell with it and allow them or keep low key.

[no go fish]

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[Adonisman]

Thank you Nikki for posting this!! After a 4 year break I came back and made my way back to this site. I have $$$ to spend,. I 'shop' around, find a girl and then I cannot find any info.

Some of these girls ads or websites do not even mention rates. Then they say, 'if you mention fees or services in texts or email you are banned and blocked!'. So how in the hell am I supposed to book you when I have no clue what I am getting into?

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

Maybe women here don’t like being the subject of adolescent and degrading penthouse letter style nonsense.

[Ava In Austin]

I understand and respect that each person has their own opinion on reviews. And, I appreciate that OH2 respects a provider’s preference on this. Which is the main reason I joined. I am also well aware that there are guys who will not see a lady who is not reviewed. And, they have that right.

I have a no review policy because personally I don’t like how graphic they are. And, I feel our time BCD is personal, private and between consenting adults where discretion paramount. And, each encounter is as unique as the individuals who are enjoying that experience ;) I would also add, that I pursue a career and have family and friends beyond this realm. Just like most everyone one else in the RW :)

Now with all of that noted, I am okay with a testimonial or even being vouched for. And, when a guys asks about my lack of reviews (which rarely happens) I simply let him know there is no negative information out there on me either. I also offer a “CatFish” clause, that allows the gent to politely bow out should he feel that is the case with me. Though no one has ever done that :-)

So, that is my opinion for me. I understand and respect that other ladies appreciate and want reviews. The beauty of OH2 is that each provider decides for herself :) Thank you CK!

[Daniel Larusso]

If this is a question for the ladies I’m wondering why it wasn’t posted in the ladies only area. ��

[Adonisman]

I understand and respect that each person has their own opinion on reviews. And, I appreciate that OH2 respects a provider’s preference on this. Which is the main reason I joined. I am also well aware that there are guys who will not see a lady who is not reviewed. And, they have that right.

I have a no review policy because personally I don’t like how graphic they are. And, I feel our time BCD is personal, private and between consenting adults where discretion paramount. And, each encounter is as unique as the individuals who are enjoying that experience ;) I would also add, that I pursue a career and have family and friends beyond this realm. Just like most everyone one else in the RW :)

Now with all of that noted, I am okay with a testimonial or even being vouched for. And, when a guys asks about my lack of reviews (which rarely happens) I simply let him know there is no negative information out there on me either. I also offer a “CatFish” clause, that allows the gent to politely bow out should he feel that is the case with me. Though no one has ever done that :-)

So, that is my opinion for me. I understand and respect that other ladies appreciate and want reviews. The beauty of OH2 is that each provider decides for herself :) Thank you CK!

Yes, I agree with you, I am not so much looking for a 'detailed review', as I am the basics. Menu, rates, available days etc. Your site does that, thank you. Some of the girls do not even do that.

I know reviews are always YMMV.

So yes, at the end of the day, I will vote with my wallet.

[killeeninformer2]

There are three reasons that I know of and one of them is pretty benign.

I know of at least one lady who doesn't like reviews because she does not like the attention for safety reasons. She has great rates, TCB, BCD... but she wants to be semi UTR and only responds to ISOs. I've seen that happening more and more as it allows girls a greater degree of control over when they work rather than waiting for a phone call.

The other two reasons are about what you'd expect: 1) girls do not want to be held to account for poor service/behavior and this way the site admins will back them up. 2) Even girls who are good TCB and BCD have caught on to the fact that reviews make it fairly easy to see what they were charging before and are hoping for people to forget that by the time the next rush of rate hikes comes around. It's kind of hard to justify paying 300 an hour for a girl that you used to see for 200 an hour. I imagine it will be worse when it goes from 300 to 400.

[lovingcamela]

I understand and respect that each person has their own opinion on reviews. And, I appreciate that OH2 respects a provider’s preference on this. Which is the main reason I joined. I am also well aware that there are guys who will not see a lady who is not reviewed. And, they have that right.

I have a no review policy because personally I don’t like how graphic they are. And, I feel our time BCD is personal, private and between consenting adults where discretion paramount. And, each encounter is as unique as the individuals who are enjoying that experience ;) I would also add, that I pursue a career and have family and friends beyond this realm. Just like most everyone one else in the RW :)

Now with all of that noted, I am okay with a testimonial or even being vouched for. And, when a guys asks about my lack of reviews (which rarely happens) I simply let him know there is no negative information out there on me either. I also offer a “CatFish” clause, that allows the gent to politely bow out should he feel that is the case with me. Though no one has ever done that :-)

So, that is my opinion for me. I understand and respect that other ladies appreciate and want reviews. The beauty of OH2 is that each provider decides for herself :) Thank you CK!

+1

There are many men that do not write reviews. It’s just what you are comfortable with.

[CubanAva]

Without reading any previous responses, I'll give my reasoning. It's fairly simple, I am a very YMMV kind of lady. While I have never been told an experience with me is lackluster in any way, I do believe that I match energies and my performance is comfort based. Thankfully, I have had only the most amazing suitors in my company (I work very hard to ensure of this) so I would say my performance would be consistent across the board. With that being said, I am not an a la carte menu. You should not pick and chose or demand or expect anything of me, especially based off of someone else's experience with me. To me, it ruins the experience completely to come in with any expectation other than that of having a wonderful time.

After reading some responses.
1. Guys can
talk about it in the mens lounge regardless of your policy so how would having a no review policy be a way around having to provide quality service? *rolls eyes*
2. James a man after my own heart, forever yours!
3.Ki2 interesting! Ladies change their rates all the time. As well they should whenever they see fit. It'd be silly to think that past/present/future rates are a reflection of their worth at any point in time. Rates change with supply, demand and necessity or lack there of. While my rates have been the same since I first started many moons ago, when you so graciously welcomed me into this hobby, we can all admit I am a great deal easier on the eyes these days (and the scale) that, plus, my level of service has not waivered even a smidge. I keep them the same because it's what I'm comfortable with and it keeps me seeing the kind of gentleman I truly enjoy spending time with.


I honestly do not mind testimonials either. I am not interested in play by play graphic details. It's not my thing for the reasons listed above, but also because I feel like most reviews are inflated for clout. I was never for the guys in school bragging about how many girls they banged or how big their junk is.

Xo

[OralPassion]

Not sure this is on topic but...

The only reason I read an ROS of a review is to try to determine what a lady truly enjoys vs what she's simply willing to do.

The play by play is mostly meaningless because as it's already been alluded to, a good session is YMMV meaning a good session consists of what comes naturally for both and is enjoyed by both.

To that end, I wish menu lists in ads were broken into three parts:
- What I love to do
- What I'm willing to do
- Out of the question

Such a list, from my perspective, would eliminate the need for reviews.

[no go fish]

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[CubanAva]

Not sure this is on topic but...

The only reason I read an ROS of a review is to try to determine what a lady truly enjoys vs what she's simply willing to do.

The play by play is mostly meaningless because as it's already been alluded to, a good session is YMMV meaning a good session consists of what comes naturally for both and is enjoyed by both.

To that end, I wish menu lists in ads were broken into three parts:
- What I love to do
- What I'm willing to do
- Out of the question

Such a list, from my perspective, would eliminate the need for reviews.

The thing is, is although I feel that the only one of those that remains SOLID across the board are our hard NOs, it's bad marketing (ironically *kanye shrug*), psychologically speaking, it gives a negative response.
YMMV true to the acronym, would mean that I may do this with you, I may do more, I may do less, I may do this with them but not you, I may not do this with either of you but I am with them etc. The things you love doing or are willing to do are included in the YMMV. It's not universal darlin. I promise you, it's not. It's all, as you stated, what comes naturally and can be enjoyed by both. Sometimes even basic things you've done a million times over, can be super hot and erotic and exciting when you're vibing with your pleasure partner or things you typically love doing, can be lackluster if you aren't connecting very well.

**EDIT** I have gained perspective and am currently toying with the idea of listing kinks/fets/taboos on my ads because they are outside of the "normal" realm of things and it would definitely be nice to know beforehand if someone is open to or interested in them. I can appreciate how uncomfortable it may be to bring them up without knowing how the other person feels because you risk them becoming uncomfortable and throwing the whole experience outta whack.

I appreciate the gentleman who reached out and shared their view with me. I hadn't thought of that and am finding it to be an exception to the no menu rule.

Xo

[killeeninformer2]

3.Ki2 interesting! Ladies change their rates all the time. As well they should whenever they see fit. It'd be silly to think that past/present/future rates are a reflection of their worth at any point in time. Rates change with supply, demand and necessity or lack there of. While my rates have been the same since I first started many moons ago, when you so graciously welcomed me into this hobby, we can all admit I am a great deal easier on the eyes these days (and the scale) that, plus, my level of service has not waivered even a smidge. I keep them the same because it's what I'm comfortable with and it keeps me seeing the kind of gentleman I truly enjoy spending time with.

I honestly do not mind testimonials either. I am not interested in play by play graphic details. It's not my thing for the reasons listed above, but also because I feel like most reviews are inflated for clout. I was never for the guys in school bragging about how many girls they banged or how big their junk is.

I wouldn't say it's universal because nothing is but I do know of a few that did start a no review policy right when they started to raise rates. More that start doing it when services declined. That said I'll readily admit that I think my benign example is quite common. When posting ISOs a guy can get responses from girls who haven't posted in months who have a no review policy. Some really don't like the attention. But it is a red flag for a guy because it can easily be a reason they don't want anyone talking.

I also don't mind as much because as you say reviews are heavily inflated for guys to feel better about themselves and so reviews are basically unreliable even when posted. Speaking of inflated: I assure you this also applies to our opinions regarding our junk.

Except for me though. I never brag. I swear.

[killeeninformer2]

The thing is, is although I feel that the only one of those that remains SOLID across the board are our hard NOs, it's bad marketing (ironically *kanye shrug*), psychologically speaking, it gives a negative response.
YMMV true to the acronym, would mean that I may do this with you, I may do more, I may do less, I may do this with them but not you, I may not do this with either of you but I am with them etc. The things you love doing or are willing to do are included in the YMMV. It's not universal darlin. I promise you, it's not. It's all, as you stated, what comes naturally and can be enjoyed by both. Sometimes even basic things you've done a million times over, can be super hot and erotic and exciting when you're vibing with your pleasure partner or things you typically love doing, can be lackluster if you aren't connecting very well.

**EDIT** I have gained perspective and am currently toying with the idea of listing kinks/fets/taboos on my ads because they are outside of the "normal" realm of things and it would definitely be nice to know beforehand if someone is open to or interested in them. I can appreciate how uncomfortable it may be to bring them up without knowing how the other person feels because you risk them becoming uncomfortable and throwing the whole experience outta whack.

I appreciate the gentleman who reached out and shared their view with me. I hadn't thought of that and am finding it to be an exception to the no menu rule.

Xo

This is something I have been harping on for awhile. Different girls have different comfort levels in general and it definitely varies based on the guy they are seeing. Some girls might get more turned on with a more attractive hobbyist but more likely the demeanor of the hobbyist makes a difference. It's hard to get relaxed enough to get truly turned on with a dude with poor social skills or who makes you uncomfortable. Vice versa for the guys. Unfortunately a lot of guys don't understand this and they read an ROS that was written by an aspiring porn producer (if it's not out and out fiction) and think "With X hobbyist the girl howled out gilbert and sullivan at the full moon was squirting uncontrollably... why not with me?!"

Telling on myself here but when I do a review my ROS contains none of that garbage and I discuss with the provider what they would be comfortable seeing shared. For instance in the squirting thread I have been told not to share that because people will read that and go "why not me??!?!" like it can be turned on/off. I instead include her TCB, if she was personable, etc. Activity descriptions are bare bones.