Wanting what you can't have fetish

[Anna Nikkole]

It appears that gents who know you and your rules push the envelope. Is it a fetish or to make them feel special? It was BBFS, ANAL and now Car Dates.

Gents weigh in please. Is it because you want to feel like the special one? Or do you just like getting your way?

Is it a fetish?

In rw I love to push the envelope and get what I want, it may be a fetish to me idk. In the hobby world I'm straight up and I stick to my rules.

Ladies what do you think?

[Oral Empress]

Much less of a fetish and much more of an innate behavior. From childhood, we push boundaries. We always want to see just how far we can go, and we keep pushing against the boundaries, pushing past them, until something or someone creates a boundary or barrier that, if crossed, has a consequence negative enough to where we respect that boundary.

Consequence doesn't have to be tangible either

[Anna Nikkole]

Much less of a fetish and much more of an innate behavior. From childhood, we push boundaries. We always want to see just how far we can go, and we keep pushing against the boundaries, pushing past them, until something or someone creates a boundary or barrier that, if crossed, has a consequence negative enough to where we respect that boundary.

Consequence doesn't have to be tangible either

I've thought this. I've also thought that gents don't think so clearly when they are so horney. I have many who apologize after the session for asking me for bbfs, saying that's something they would never do. Does the little head have that much power?

I am just one who likes to push boundaries in the rw. Hobby world I do all I can and my main goal is to stay safe.

[Oral Empress]

I've thought this. I've also thought that gents don't think so clearly when they are so horney. I have many who apologize after the session for asking me for bbfs, saying that's something they would never do. Does the little head have that much power?

I am just one who likes to push boundaries in the rw. Hobby world I do all I can and my main goal is to stay safe.

Case in point, right there. In hobbyverse, the consequences of not maintaining boundaries can cost us EVERYTHING. In the RW, there's a lot more leniency because the consequences aren't a constant thing in our heads.

It's not that the little head has that much power, it's that men do not have certain topics crammed down their throats from early ages like women do. So regulating their emotions and controlling their behavior while horny does not come easily, because they are not taught to do so, whereas women are taught to be CONSTANTLY aware of things like that.

Societal shifts are making it more common for men to be taught what women are taught, but it will be years before we see the fruits of that labor. In the meantime, all we as providers can do is stick to our guns, maintain our boundaries, and educate anyone who is open to listening.

[rigpig1997]

One reason could be because men now going in that they want more... and they look for providers to they think that if they develop a relationship with that they can convince them to push the limit. I was seeing a UTR for 2 years and after about 6 months I spent the rest of the time trying to overcome the boundaries she set for various reasons. Partially because they were there (the boundaries) and I wanted to see if I could conquer them, but more so, because I knew that if I could get her to submit it would be amazing because of the intimacy we had developed.

[mathguy]

Case in point, right there. In hobbyverse, the consequences of not maintaining boundaries can cost us EVERYTHING. In the RW, there's a lot more leniency because the consequences aren't a constant thing in our heads.

It's not that the little head has that much power, it's that men do not have certain topics crammed down their throats from early ages like women do. So regulating their emotions and controlling their behavior while horny does not come easily, because they are not taught to do so, whereas women are taught to be CONSTANTLY aware of things like that.

Societal shifts are making it more common for men to be taught what women are taught, but it will be years before we see the fruits of that labor. In the meantime, all we as providers can do is stick to our guns, maintain our boundaries, and educate anyone who is open to listening.

I love the analysis that goes into formulating many of your responses. Your intelligence is very sexy

You probe into the prevailing psyche of the audience, reflecting on obvious acquired knowledge, using it as the basis for your hypotheses (which are quite good I might add... ijs ).

[Anna Nikkole]

Really great responses. I love to make someone do something they shouldn't and break all of the rules. And you are right Amy, just being p4p I'm sticking to my boundaries. But on the outside when I can deliciously play, I like to eat forbidden fruit better. Everything else is mediocre.

I can say, in the hobby when I see a ring on a mans hand it's hot. It turns me on. I want to sit on his face. There's just something about doing naughty things with someone you aren't supposed to. But we are still in work mode so I'll never do bbfs. I guess those are the 2 parts of my brain?

I knew a guy training to be a pastor in the rw, and I had to have him. It was a conquest. Nothing more.

[Anna Nikkole]

I love the analysis that goes into formulating many of your responses. Your intelligence is very sexy

You probe into the prevailing psyche of the audience, reflecting on obvious acquired knowledge, using it as the basis for your hypotheses (which are quite good I might add... ijs ).

I agree. Very intelligent and very beautiful!!!

[Oral Empress]

I love the analysis that goes into formulating many of your responses. Your intelligence is very sexy

You probe into the prevailing psyche of the audience, reflecting on obvious acquired knowledge, using it as the basis for your hypotheses (which are quite good I might add... ijs ).

Coming from you, the compliment is a high honor, and as such I take my bow with a flourish of pride.

I agree. Very intelligent and very beautiful!!!

I only offer up what I've learned in hope that others will benefit from it, but it is always an absolute pleasure to be perceived as beautiful for flexing a different set of skills than those routinely seen on these forums

[Kammye]

Great responses!!!