Disturbing safety situation with a lady

[sjzezwuyu]

I went to see a lady (verified, 3 reviews, 1 from a verified hobbiest) the other day. At the incall hotel room, I request to check first by touching her, and she declined. Instead, she asked me to lay out the donation before checking, which I refused. She then offered to touch me with cloths on, which I declined again. Then she said very clear and loud that I can give part of the donation to watch her undress. Her very explicit wording and the sparkling clean room gave me a huge red flag. So I left some roses for her wasted time and left immediately. Can't afford taking chances on safety.

I'm new to Texas from north midwest, and everyone there was perfectly fine with checking (except uncles). Am I being too paranoid? or it's a red flag here too? I don't want to reveal her handle here because she might be good and it was just me too nervous.

[Dingaling]

What exactly were you trying to check for?a wire??


Newsflash,once you show up to a sting, you're taking a ride
You didn't get arrested,did you?
Do your due diligence before setting up an appointment
Ask questions,do some reverse screening and never discuss pay for play
And get verified for God's sake

You just wasted that poor woman's time

[sjzezwuyu]

Thanks for the tips man. That makes sense as I wasn't busted. I guess I was just too paranoid.

[Lovelyjordan]

You might’ve be to paranoid and you made her paranoid, just next time do some screening hun. No biggie at least you were a gentleman and still gave her a tip.

[The1Slayer]

Name her OP or this thread is useless here.............................................. .......

[chloevankatie]

There is so much to say but I don't even have the energy. Lots going in OP's post that is just not good, from both the OP and the lady in question.

Dingaling is pretty much right, if it was a setup, you were probably gonna get taken in anyway.

Dingaling also gave great advice. You need to do your homework, go to the men's locker room and ask the gentlemen there about the ladies you are going to see. Send messages to the men who have reviewed her and ask them questions. Do a search on her name and check her posting history, search for alerts.

I'd be super pissed if I was that lady and had my time wasted, always do your homework first.

This is one of the reasons I will turn down seeing a gentleman, if I can tell when he contacts me that he has not done his homework at all. It seems like a lot of guys don't understand why I would turn someone down for this reason, but it is because I hate when a man shows up and we both waste our time for whatever reason.

[sjzezwuyu]

There is so much to say but I don't even have the energy. Lots going in OP's post that is just not good, from both the OP and the lady in question.

Dingaling is pretty much right, if it was a setup, you were probably gonna get taken in anyway.

Dingaling also gave great advice. You need to do your homework, go to the men's locker room and ask the gentlemen there about the ladies you are going to see. Send messages to the men who have reviewed her and ask them questions. Do a search on her name and check her posting history, search for alerts.

I'd be super pissed if I was that lady and had my time wasted, always do your homework first.

This is one of the reasons I will turn down seeing a gentleman, if I can tell when he contacts me that he has not done his homework at all. It seems like a lot of guys don't understand why I would turn someone down for this reason, but it is because I hate when a man shows up and we both waste our time for whatever reason.

Appreciate your very helpful advice! Definitely gonna finish my homework before making a move from now on.

[Universal]

He isn't verified which means he can't go into a private sector to ask the other hobbyist anything.
A cop can get undressed down to their skimpy underware and have a hidden camera in the room.

[Krystal_RoseBBW]

My question to the OP would be....How much did she screen you before meeting?

LE isn't likely to screen very heavy. They want to make it as quick, easy, and as enticing as possible.

The fact that you talked about the donation at all would have been a big red flag for me and had me asking you to leave immediately no matter how much screening had been done.

I'm also scratching my head on the "clean room" issue. I thought it was a GOOD thing for the accommodations to be clean. Or is this a code phrase of some kind that means something else? lol

+1 on CVK's comment.....When it's obvious to me they haven't done much research, I either turn them away or direct them to where they can get better info.
(usually right back to where they found me and just didn't bother to read my instructions lol)

Hopefully, you will be able to get verified status soon and research will become much simpler, OP.

Have fun and play safe!

[Guest 081220-1]

Don't bash the guys instinct. To the OP, always follow your instincts. If it told you something was not safe, be safe. I would not do things the same as u but we all different. I usually check for danger before entering the room. Once u r in, it means all is well. You should not go in to check, all wellness checks happen before you step inside that room. However, if you step in and realize you are still concerned, it is perfectly ok to leave as well. As a gentleman, always compensate for time wasted, but I can tell you the ladies will never return that favor.

[Italia DiBella]

Sorry to hear, sjzezwuyu
Take it as a learning experience and brush it off.

But in this day, you guys need to "screen" as well.

Here's a few examples that cautious male members I know and trust use...
1. Check ladies past posting history on all boards
2. Check to see if and why there was a name/handle change on this and other boards

Those two options alone will help you figure out if she's legit or good to go.

Of course getting verified yourself is a big help, you'll have access to other areas of the board.

Happy Hobbying

[chloevankatie]

Don't bash the guys instinct. To the OP, always follow your instincts. If it told you something was not safe, be safe. I would not do things the same as u but we all different. I usually check for danger before entering the room. Once u r in, it means all is well. You should not go in to check, all wellness checks happen before you step inside that room. However, if you step in and realize you are still concerned, it is perfectly ok to leave as well. As a gentleman, always compensate for time wasted, but I can tell you the ladies will never return that favor.

Not bashing the guy. As I said there were mistakes made by BOTH. If she asked for a donation for him to watch her undress, it could be construed as a solicitation (money for service). I would have left too, because no discussion should EVER take place. The whole thing went south. On his part, if he had done his homework, he could have prevented his own time being wasted.

Also, it is NOT true that a lady will not return the favor. I have offered discounts or makeups when I know something is my fault. If I didn't offer to compensate someone for a cancellation of some sort, etc, I probably just didn't want to see them for some reason and want them to go away. I never want to lose a good client, and some clients I might be very happy to lose.

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

OP, the opinions already expressed should give you good ideas on how to move forward. I would add that relying on your instincts is no substitute for doing your homework. Most of us have lousy instincts when starting out, mostly because we’re being led on by our little brains.

See some newbie-friendly women and get verified. Raise questions in the men’s lounge. Search the major sites (OH2, eccie, P411, tryst, Eros, TER, Twitter) and be wary of less reliable sites (all others). Read the posts here and get to know the people here, men and women. You will find people here who are reliable and trustworthy. You will also find some scallawags. Once you get to know us, you can draw your own conclusions with reasonable accuracy.

Best of luck.

[The1Slayer]

OP told me whom it was and the lady is known for not screening the greatest also...........................Pretty much told him to do her research and homework on any and all ladies and to screen...screen....screen.........


Screening goes both ways on these boards....................... Please gents do your homework and ladies do yours...........


This hobby is supposed to be fun, not stressful.

[Dorthy Monroe]

I went to see a lady (verified, 3 reviews, 1 from a verified hobbiest) the other day. At the incall hotel room, I request to check first by touching her, and she declined. Instead, she asked me to lay out the donation before checking, which I refused. She then offered to touch me with cloths on, which I declined again. Then she said very clear and loud that I can give part of the donation to watch her undress. Her very explicit wording and the sparkling clean room gave me a huge red flag. So I left some roses for her wasted time and left immediately. Can't afford taking chances on safety.

I'm new to Texas from north midwest, and everyone there was perfectly fine with checking (except uncles). Am I being too paranoid? or it's a red flag here too? I don't want to reveal her handle here because she might be good and it was just me too nervous.

I would have told you to leave lmao this is the craziest shit I’ve heard they’re not going to have wires on them they set up audio and visual cameras in the room you need to get on google and watch videos! If you did your research then non of this should have even happened on your part! You need to find you a provider that has been around a while and that’s reputable!

Who is the provider because she said things that shouldn’t have been said or done either! Why would she mention money and acts I would have left to ! Sorry you had to experience this hopefully you do your research next time

But always follow your gut even if she was legit at least you’re safe !

OP I sent you a message with advice on how to research providers that grab your interest good luck & stay safe !