Better to ask forgiveness than to get turned back by asking permission. However, a so-called wise man (not a wise guy) has said: I tell the ladies they need to have two rules: 1) The ladies make the rules, and 2) The ladies make sure the guys know what the rules are. And, of course, "yes Dears" works 99 pct of the time, except on "skirt/tush size questions" for the only answer is "I don't care, just as long as your ass is mine and only mine."