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    Did you really expect me to do that?

    Serious question for guys.
    1. Let me start off by saying I’ve seen a negative “review”. Of course I’m not a fan but hey, you win some, you loose some right? LOL BUT! In my own personal defense, I try to make it as clear as humanly possible to any and all future clients that IM EXTREMELY SHY. Like literally at one point was deathly afraid of ordering food for myself. But I’ve over come it I’m more confident and blah blah blah, I like people now. (kinda)

    Cutting to chase! When you (as a guy) comes into a room with me who as already stressed to you her “complications” with first meetings what would you do?

    A simple conversation maybe to maybe Help ease the mood? (I allow that you know.. not at all time freak.) Maybe start with a little massage? Maybe some music? No phones no distractions? ALL ARE GREAT IDEAS BTW.

    OR.

    Would you hand off donation strip naked and lay there and expect her to make you feel something she’s not even feeling. Still knowing that she is likely at this point too uncomfortable to even crack a smile at you. (:

    Now that we kind of see things through my point of view. YOU GUYS ARE REALLY MEAN LMAO. I don’t know if I’m allowed to say that but OMG. We may be escorts but still HAVE FEELINGS AND FEEL THINGS LIKE REGULAR PEOPLE . Its completely normal for someone to be shy when they first meet someone. Hard for me to get into it when I barely know who I’m seeing and he did nothing at all to try and make the situation more comfortable.. I understand completely some have a short time frame or prior engagements etc. but please don’t take that out on me. I’m a process. Once the ice is broken though we will have a hell of a lot of fun...


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    Well I'm not a shy person but an introvert & quiet. If it's my first visit I usually like to get to know the person but without being too personal. I always bring my music and a few beers. My phone stays in my pocket just like when I have dinner with friends phone never comes out. Usually will place the donation in plain sight to ease any doubts. Typically wait for her to get comfortable & proceed after that.

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    I definitely understand your POV. However the negative comments I see about you are more towards being a provider that rushes, no IOP, and things of that sort. You have the right to be shy, but remember that you chose to supplement your income by providing. My advice is to realize that 1 bad review is a fluke. 2 is a pattern. But three is a habit. You are definitely one of the hottest women on here from your pics.

    But me...I would rather have a steamy session with a 5/10 than a mechanical rushed session from a dime. Plus providing that level service creates return customers. Either way, take the comments and use them to get even better. I know alot of the guys are dicks and cannot put themselves in your shoes. But a guy like myself would break the ice and soften you up even without your promoting because that's how I am built.

    Either way be safe out there beautiful woman and just try to treat people how you would like to be treated.

    Good luck

    Btw...I have wanted to see you and been on the fence for months. But of course the multiple reports by different guys kinds held me back.

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    This isn't meant harshly or anything, but you MIGHT be in the wrong occupation, dear.

    This business is about making the client feel good, asking him what he wants, and not expecting him to do everything. Hell, from everything I've heard all these years, most of these guys have to do everything with their significant others anyway, so they want to be pampered.

    Even if you aren't "feeling" him, your job is to act like you are. If you must be attracted, and you aren't, then you should tell him you're sorry, but you're unable to fulfill the appointment, and then ask him to leave, and don't expect any kind of payment since you cancelled the appointment. A lot of this job is acting. But I hate to tell you this.... you won't be attracted to every one of your clients.

    I was once a shy girl too.... but with this job, you have to break out of that shell. You should do the same, or I'm afraid that you might not last too long in this business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lil Oral Annie View Post
    This isn't meant harshly or anything, but you MIGHT be in the wrong occupation, dear.

    This business is about making the client feel good, asking him what he wants, and not expecting him to do everything. Hell, from everything I've heard all these years, most of these guys have to do everything with their significant others anyway, so they want to be pampered.

    Even if you aren't "feeling" him, your job is to act like you are. If you must be attracted, and you aren't, then you should tell him you're sorry, but you're unable to fulfill the appointment, and then ask him to leave, and don't expect any kind of payment since you cancelled the appointment. A lot of this job is acting. But I hate to tell you this.... you won't be attracted to every one of your clients.

    I was once a shy girl too.... but with this job, you have to break out of that shell. You should do the same, or I'm afraid that you might not last too long in this business.
    I agree with you 100%
    Good thing it's coming from a provider. It's like being surgeon but also being afraid of blood and unable to overcome the fear...the two are not congruent. I really feel that the young beauty that started the thread has potential to be a great provider...physically there is nothing lacking..pure beauty

    Also I think some guys find it hard to understand that a woman as beautiful as her would have insecurities or be shy...most guys are like why? You have everything already....but this shows that even the most perfect looking people have their own inner demons

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    Quote Originally Posted by spanishcandy_ View Post
    Serious question for guys.
    1. Let me start off by saying I’ve seen a negative “review”. Of course I’m not a fan but hey, you win some, you loose some right? LOL BUT! In my own personal defense, I try to make it as clear as humanly possible to any and all future clients that IM EXTREMELY SHY. Like literally at one point was deathly afraid of ordering food for myself. But I’ve over come it I’m more confident and blah blah blah, I like people now. (kinda)

    Cutting to chase! When you (as a guy) comes into a room with me who as already stressed to you her “complications” with first meetings what would you do?

    A simple conversation maybe to maybe Help ease the mood? (I allow that you know.. not at all time freak.) Maybe start with a little massage? Maybe some music? No phones no distractions? ALL ARE GREAT IDEAS BTW.

    OR.

    Would you hand off donation strip naked and lay there and expect her to make you feel something she’s not even feeling. Still knowing that she is likely at this point too uncomfortable to even crack a smile at you. (:

    Now that we kind of see things through my point of view. YOU GUYS ARE REALLY MEAN LMAO. I don’t know if I’m allowed to say that but OMG. We may be escorts but still HAVE FEELINGS AND FEEL THINGS LIKE REGULAR PEOPLE . Its completely normal for someone to be shy when they first meet someone. Hard for me to get into it when I barely know who I’m seeing and he did nothing at all to try and make the situation more comfortable.. I understand completely some have a short time frame or prior engagements etc. but please don’t take that out on me. I’m a process. Once the ice is broken though we will have a hell of a lot of fun...


    Big Question: how would you handle a SHY girl??

    Did you use to be a stripper and now you’re a provider? I’m not asking to be mean but it matters and will make my response different depending if you say yes or no
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    Quote Originally Posted by osirus09 View Post
    I agree with you 100%
    Good thing it's coming from a provider. It's like being surgeon but also being afraid of blood and unable to overcome the fear...the two are not congruent. I really feel that the young beauty that started the thread has potential to be a great provider...physically there is nothing lacking..pure beauty

    Also I think some guys find it hard to understand that a woman as beautiful as her would have insecurities or be shy...most guys are like why? You have everything already....but this shows that even the most perfect looking people have their own inner demons
    Inner demons or not, she has to overcome that or her time in the business will be cut short. I would hate that for her, but it's the truth.

    There's a saying: "Gotta fake it to make it."

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    why can't she be graded on her performance instead of talking?
    I have always said, my mouth is busy sucking cock and can't talk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Universal View Post
    why can't she be graded on her performance instead of talking?
    I have always said, my mouth is busy sucking cock and can't talk.
    Have you read her reviews? That's what they are speaking of. I have not seen her. I wouldnt mind seeing her. But after multiple reputable posters said the same thing of their experience...

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    Quote Originally Posted by spanishcandy_ View Post
    Serious question for guys.
    1. Let me start off by saying I’ve seen a negative “review”. Of course I’m not a fan but hey, you win some, you loose some right? LOL BUT! In my own personal defense, I try to make it as clear as humanly possible to any and all future clients that IM EXTREMELY SHY. Like literally at one point was deathly afraid of ordering food for myself. But I’ve over come it I’m more confident and blah blah blah, I like people now. (kinda)

    Cutting to chase! When you (as a guy) comes into a room with me who as already stressed to you her “complications” with first meetings what would you do?

    A simple conversation maybe to maybe Help ease the mood? (I allow that you know.. not at all time freak.) Maybe start with a little massage? Maybe some music? No phones no distractions? ALL ARE GREAT IDEAS BTW.

    OR.

    Would you hand off donation strip naked and lay there and expect her to make you feel something she’s not even feeling. Still knowing that she is likely at this point too uncomfortable to even crack a smile at you. (:

    Now that we kind of see things through my point of view. YOU GUYS ARE REALLY MEAN LMAO. I don’t know if I’m allowed to say that but OMG. We may be escorts but still HAVE FEELINGS AND FEEL THINGS LIKE REGULAR PEOPLE . Its completely normal for someone to be shy when they first meet someone. Hard for me to get into it when I barely know who I’m seeing and he did nothing at all to try and make the situation more comfortable.. I understand completely some have a short time frame or prior engagements etc. but please don’t take that out on me. I’m a process. Once the ice is broken though we will have a hell of a lot of fun...


    Big Question: how would you handle a SHY girl??
    Well princess, when i see the lady i like to lead the "Dance" and yes i would rock your world. I promise a great time with every lady i get a chance to spend even a little time with. By the way, you look sexy in your pictures!

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    I would handle a shy girl the exact same way I handle every lady that I see. I'm a break the ice type of guy. I prefer (especially the first time) that the lady be dressed in just regular clothes. Maybe start with a drink or glass of wine and sit and talk just a bit and let things progress from there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NordicJag View Post
    I would handle a shy girl the exact same way I handle every lady that I see. I'm a break the ice type of guy. I prefer (especially the first time) that the lady be dressed in just regular clothes. Maybe start with a drink or glass of wine and sit and talk just a bit and let things progress from there.
    YES! Especially the first time! I am shy as well so I know how it feels to feel awkward the first time you are with someone. I know there are fellas on this site that will love to help her break out of her shell a little bit but let's be honest, there are bad people everywhere and I expect and practice caution EVERY TIME I meet someone new, so there isn't anything wrong with that... It is possible that maybe when she meets a guy for the first time she has a little 10 minute chat session, for the fellas that are willing, off the clock to help her feel at ease.... There is no exact way to do this where everyone feels the same way, we might try offering some non traditional suggestions rather than just expecting her to get on board or find a new career path.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jamesd236 View Post
    YES! Especially the first time! I am shy as well so I know how it feels to feel awkward the first time you are with someone. I know there are fellas on this site that will love to help her break out of her shell a little bit but let's be honest, there are bad people everywhere and I expect and practice caution EVERY TIME I meet someone new, so there isn't anything wrong with that... It is possible that maybe when she meets a guy for the first time she has a little 10 minute chat session, for the fellas that are willing, off the clock to help her feel at ease.... There is no exact way to do this where everyone feels the same way, we might try offering some non traditional suggestions rather than just expecting her to get on board or find a new career path.

    THIS!!!!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by NordicJag View Post
    I would handle a shy girl the exact same way I handle every lady that I see. I'm a break the ice type of guy. I prefer (especially the first time) that the lady be dressed in just regular clothes. Maybe start with a drink or glass of wine and sit and talk just a bit and let things progress from there.
    Wine is Def Always the Answer lol! It makes everything easier and it sets the mood. Def. should be a #1 go to
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    So, I haven't read the negative reviews, but I'm going to just read between the lines and guess that they say you are very pretty, with a rockin body and have no IOP. IF that is not the case, take my advice with a grain of salt. BUT, I think it's good advice considering what you wrote in your post.

    First, I and NOT a shy person. Not once in my life has anyone thought I was shy. I can be a bit in my own head sometimes, but I am a people person for sure. That said, I would not react well to someone coming in and "getting comfortable" immediately. So, I make sure that does not happen. How? I invited them in and ask them what they'd like to drink, not "would you like a drink" but rather "what." IN the rare event they say, "Nothing," I respond, well, that's going to be awkward when you just sit there and watch me drinking my drink, lol. They they will say "okay" and at the very least have water or iced tea. Then we sit done and have some nice flirty conversation. This does wonders to break the ice on both sides.

    At some point, the kissing starts, then undressing, then the rest of the magic happens. If we are getting busy and it seems a shower is in order, then he can grab a shower and we can proceed. "Why don't you grab a quick shower and meet me in the bedroom"

    I understand SHY, but if you can't be somewhat assertive, then LOA is correct and this isn't the business for you FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY.

    In a nutshell, think of how act on a real date and set up your paydates to mirror that experience as much as possible if you want to feel more comfortable.

    Good luck... You may want to have this discussion in the Ladies Only area.

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