Why is it anytime I get an Incall.....

Hey guys, I'm just going to vent for a hot second...

First, I'm 98% Outcall only. I rarely get a chance to get an incall... And even though my posts usually say outcall only, I get flooded with hobbyists asking me to contact them when I DO get an incall. Not that I'm complaining about that at all... So, I've let them know, yet I get crickets lol.

It almost seems like it's a waste of time and money to get an incall, if no one is going to show up. Lol. See my goal is to raise enough to be able to have something a little more permanent - like a studio on the side or whatever, but I feel I'm just dealing with a lot of tire kickers, so to speak. And I say that in the most respectful way possible. Just frustrated here is all.

Any thoughts?

Sounds like you have some time wasters trying to virtue signal you. They fall in the same category as the time wasters booking, then canceling.

It might take sometime for you to build up a list of people who prefer incall if you’ve ever only offered out call. Maybe try prebooking for your incalls a few days in advanced so people have time to think about it. You still might get some of the time waster. But it might give people a few days to consider instead it being spontaneous

Timing is a big thing for some hobbyists. Unfortunately I can only hobby on quite specific dates, and I don't always know when they'll be, so a provider getting a one-off or very occasional incall is not much use to somebody in my position.

I would look to have an incall in different areas of ATX. I prefer to see someone who is closer to me. That's just me though.

Jess, I inquired about seeing you tonight and when you finally text back to see if I was still interested, I replied pretty quickly with a “yes.” Then I got ghosted. Maybe work on your communication…just a suggestion.

Jess,
I have inquired about your incall availably a couple of times. My schedule is limited in the evening and there have been conflicts when I see that you have an "incall tonight". Some pre-booking might help or even a post in the am for the afternoon and evening.

Yes!! Exactly!! That's exactly what I was thinking my last visit to see y'all in ATX! Def. Will consider that for my next trip.

For me; it's the second I post (especially in ATX ; LOVE u guys!!!) I get a pretty large (sometimes a bit overwhelming) amount of messages and even though I try it's not always possible to get to, or unfortunately, even get back to every single message and I'm so so sorry for that!!! It undoubtedly makes me look flakey I'm sure. .. But Im also lucky i have a pretty good circle of hobbiest that come see me regularly and Is also why I don't have to post everyday.

Thank you all for your feedback. I'll try the previous idea next time. All of you were very helpful thanks 😀

You definitely need to work on getting back to interested hobbyists quicker. Texting 24 hours later ain't it.

For me, it's all about timing. I saw Brooklynn's post on one of her recent visits to Austin. Pretty sure I was first to respond and we had a blast (she's amazing guys).

The part of the story that doesn't portray is I had been trying for 6+ months before my schedule lined up with her visit to Austin or my visit to SA.

Any time you get an incall Jess, I'm interested. Most of the time it won't work because of my schedule. That doesn't mean I'm not interested, flakey, or a time waster - just have a shitty schedule. There are several of us in the same situation.

Another approach is to find a guy (like me) who wants an incall and run an ad for the same day / night. You're guaranteed at least one visitor.

I (and others) get texts every week from ladies coming to town. Not sure how they manage their "Austin list", but they definitely have one (and a Houston list and a SA list ...). For many of these ladies, if I don't respond within a few hours, they're booked. From what I hear, you could easily be one of those that books up in hours. Just need to build a history of excellent TCB and keep up the excellent BCD.

Text me - we'll find a time to play.

Do what feels right to you. Guys are going to complain regardless.
I have an incall and guys complain I'm not south lol.

I would have guys pay a booking fee to help cover the cost of an incall that way you are out any money and it holds them accountable

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Originally Posted by MissBee

Do what feels right to you. Guys are going to complain regardless.
I have an incall and guys complain I'm not south lol.

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Hey, I resemble that remark!

You know I adore you ❤️

I also tried to set something up yesterday - it is going to continue to be tough to do same day without quick turn around texts.

Do you know your schedule well enough to say, for example, to have a post where you announce that you will have an incall available for next Monday?

Question to the providers reading this, has anybody tried to use a scheduling service like calendly ? It is pretty easy to setup where you could charge a small booking fee (*like $25), that takes care of scheduling and weeds out tire kickers.


(happy Bday MissBee if you are reading this)

I feel the same way, but seeing feedback is always a plus! Timing seems to be a big deal, so I’ll keep that in mind & and also try prebooking before getting an Incall.

So you are encouraging booking fees AKA deposits etc......which everytime is a scam. If you don't kick the tires, you are doing yourself an injustice. Every real escort I personally know will tell you don't ever pay a deposit. SMH. Sorry but you are a moron for suggesting that.

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Fuckin A Brother. Most of them are doing the bare minimum, enough to rebook their room, gamble and get drugs and get back to giving the pimp/BF attention.

It's like that in Austin because Austin is saturated with hobbyists and providers and therefore is overwhelmingly scammers. So guys are sketchy.....add the new law that passed last year making it a state jail felony for first offense just for solicitation.....for Hobbyists only, and guys are going to flake and ask questions and shop around etc. Thank the fake girls for that.

Perhaps before booking an in call you first a day or two early announce that you plan to get an in call for x day of that week and you can gauge response ahead of the actual day.

Perhaps off a slight discount for pre-session bookings?

I suggest enforcing a small booking fee or deposit, it usually weeds out a lot of timewasters. I used to get a lot of timewasters and NCNS when I didn't have a deposit requirement. It's been so much better since I started requiring it a couple years ago though.

I'm 100% outcall now....but there were few times I've offered incall before (in and out of town), the only guys who followed through were the deposit paid ones. The others always just ended up ghosting, which sucks since I used to hold times for non-deposit people for so many days...

My deposit fee is a flat $50. I always inform everyone it goes toward my rate as well, which many (if not all) like that (instead of it being a fee in addition to).

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