Sex with an #escort/#companion/#****** (#payforplay$) is not cheating. #CHANGEMYMIND
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Sex with an #escort/#companion/#****** (#payforplay$) is not cheating. #CHANGEMYMIND
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Truthfully I don't think it is. If I was married or in a serious relationship I would rather my man pay for play then to mess around & have a emotional relationship with another female. With a escort usually no real "feelings" are there,he sees her they do their thing & goodbye till next time. That's just my opinion & I tend to have totally different views on lots of things.
I think a lot of it comes down to how would you feel if you found out your spouse is doing the same thing and do you want to risk destroying their life.
It doesn’t matter what the ‘cheater’ or person doing the act thinks of it, you cannot define other’s feelings and reactions to a situation. What matters is does your spouse view it as cheating. You can tell them all day it isn’t cheating but you won’t be mending a broken heart by saying their heartache is based on a lack of comprehension.
Try telling her that when she has the lawyer serve you with divorce papers. I think they'll see things differentlyQuote:
Originally Posted by Capital_G
Everyone should just be poly. It's SO much easier and less emotionally draining
I don’t think it is. My wife had a different opinion. However, she agreed that hobbying was better than an affair. We both agreed on that.
That would be nice, but not easy. Relationships are so territorial. Both sexes feel threatened when their SOs are intimate with others.Quote:
Originally Posted by LovelyEvelyn
I watch too much true crime TV. :-)
Ask your wife what she thinks!
For some odd reason, most wifes do not agree.
Once though in Amsterdam, my wife actually let me try out the Red Light District.
We never talked about it, but I was happy as Hell!
Being poly is the way to go IMO. The whole idea of monogamy is kinda crazy, if you think about it. There ARE a lot of hot people out there and just because you find someone to have a relationship with, doesn’t mean that everyone suddenly stopped being hot. If my girl sees a hot guy, who am I to reprimand her NATURAL feeling of wanting to fuck him? I want to fuck hot women too! It’s a natural feel where as monogamy is a choice. Just because you’ve decided to become a vegetarian, doesn’t mean bacon stopped smelling delicious.
My 2 cents....
The idea of a poly relationship intrigues me greatly... you men saying that you want or would be intololyamorous dating: would you have any reluctance with the female reciprocating or is there a double standard there? As I feel (and I could very well be very wrong, no offense is intended this is simply my own speculation based on what I’ve heard or seen from men before) ) many men wouldn’t be as drawn to the aspect of the woman being casual in her affairs.. if you said yes, would you go so far to say you’d be okay with your mate being a provider?. Why or why not? however maybe you hobbyists are a lot more progressive than I give y’all credit for c: this is a nice little fantasy I like to think about (tried gf and a bf at same time, and Ed while I was providing and it was not the fun sexy free spirited romp I’d imagined at all)
Anyway interesting tread, thanks will be lurking and thinking lol
Hrmmm... screw this thread. Hahahaha. :giggles: I'm not gonna even start except to say I'm not going to start :lol:
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Originally Posted by Capital_G
It ain’t...if it remains transactional and there are no romantic feelings involved. I like to think of it as compartmentalisation, and it’s allowed me to indulge in this playground, guilt free all these years. :towel: :cheers:
Agreed!Quote:
Originally Posted by octobergrey
This and me too.
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Originally Posted by Island_Gent
If your wife was screwing male escorts would you consider that cheating or just a compartmentalized transaction? It’s all in one’s perspective. We all look for reasons to justify actions we know may be hurtful to others.
Everyone has their own perception of it. Whether a person thinks it's cheating or not is solely up to that person. Now societal views are in my opinion not showing the true thoughts of "close" minded people. Open minded people i believe are, well being truthful to themselves first. The truth is all in each individuals thoughts. Cheating or not, it's up to each of us ourselves
The keys to any relationship are honesty and communication.
A good percentage are obviously not honest with their SOs but I really feel like some long held beliefs about monogamy need to die.
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Originally Posted by Babyboomer46
I’d respond to your direct query if I took you seriously. You registered this account three years ago, you’re still not verified and your one and only post is this. FOH.
+2Quote:
Originally Posted by Island_Gent
Emotion, to me, is the key. May be rationalizing on my part. After all, not sure the pay for play world is very big for females hiring males. Let’s be real, most women can get sex without paying. On the other hand, many of us guys have as much game as we have rhythm, namely none.
However, if my significant other were paying, not sure I would be that worried. If she has communication and/or sex with an ex, then yea I am pissed.
When you don’t like the message shoot the messenger. Just an FYI, I am a long time member on eccie and P411 under a different handle. Do my reviews there. Signed up here just to see if there was any difference in talent. Not so much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Island_Gent
ROFLMAO!Quote:
Originally Posted by Babyboomer46
Never crossed my mind to review alleged hobbyists! Sounds too much like a drama queen to me - maybe someone's white knight who hasn't figured out how to game the system enough to be verified...
LOL!
(hint - bad attitude #487)