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When Giving Other Providers Your Provider References Information DO NOT
Give Them The Providers Phone Number If She Doesn’t Advertise Her Number
Simply Send A Link From Her Page So That They Can Contact Them Directly Through PM!
You Wouldn’t Want Us Giving Out Your Number That You Don’t Advertise So Have The Same Respect For The Love Of Tebow!
Please Don’t Be A F u c k t a r d :hammer:
SMH, sorry you had to deal with someone giving out your private phone number. I change mine every 3 months for privacy reasons.:console:
girl i hate that shyt too, i just ignore those texts or act like i dont understand and that they have the wrong number lol. I will then wait until the next day and let the guy know NOT TO PROVIDE MY NUMBER OUT and the route to go to get a reference from meQuote:
Originally Posted by Dorthy Monroe
My completely private phone number is not published anywhere and given out extremely sparingly, and this is known (even noted on my profile), so I was pretty shocked earlier this week to get a reference request by text from a lass here after a gent gave her my intensely-guarded digits. Hadn't seen him in well over a year, either. I informed her of that, and also that he shouldn't be indiscreetly sharing my number and to please delete it from her records. Sent him a text, too. Heavy sigh.
I was trying to meet a provider and gave her my references' PM and she asked for their phone numbers. I repeated with the PMs and she replied that my references asked what number I contacted them at. Which to me seemed very strange. Also, both refs guard their numbers so I told her I was not free to give her the numbers and moved on, despite the fact that I would have loved to see her.
It’s happening a lot and it’s very frustrating Thanks girlyQuote:
Originally Posted by Universal
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Originally Posted by SuperHead713
I ignore them as well and when they contact you they don’t even tell you who they’re on top of that idk this has never been an issue until recently! You’re better than me I don’t even contact them they lost my reference after that not ok!
I don’t know what goes through there head but it’s becoming a very big problem and it’s very concerning and absolutely not ok! Sorry you’ve experienced this as well Fancy !Quote:
Originally Posted by Fancyinheels
That doesn’t seem right & You did right moving onto another provider seems like they’re digging for information! Not ok it’s sad how much this hobby has changed!Quote:
Originally Posted by darius
I have my number but I can understand your frustration I really can. One day I will go as discreet as that.
My bitch fit is send me 2 references SEND THEIR LINKS not just their name. It takes extra time to search search and is a pain. Just send link and I'll go directly to her page and contact with information she provides.
its Surprising how often providers ask for the phone number when providing references.
Thank you hun for bringing that up!! SmhQuote:
Originally Posted by Dorthy Monroe
I have my number published and I don't mind being contacted by phone for a reference
HOWEVER...
They need to not just tell me their name and expect me to know who they are. I want links to ad/profile/website with the number they are contacting me from. PROVE to me that you're a legit provider or I ain't giving ANY info on the Gents that have put their trust in me.
Yes I have the same issue the reason why I personally ask for a link is because some people don’t spell there names right & that could be a security issue if we sent there information to the wrong hands! & like you said it’s a pain in the ass to go look for it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Anna Nikkole
If they don’t send links they get sent to the back of my screening line !
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Those who ask don’t know how to screen !Quote:
Originally Posted by tth007
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BingoQuote:
Originally Posted by Krystal_RoseBBW
This is how I’ve been feeling this month in general so serious !
Yes ma’am glad I’m not the only oneQuote:
Originally Posted by Sweetaskandibbw
I want to go fishing.:console:
You'd think that would be obvious, but evidently not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dorthy Monroe
This is my pet peeve too but It hasn’t happened recently.
When I was accepting references for screening.....
Sometimes guys would send me the provider's name and phone number. If she did not have that phone number posted in her sig line or profile, I would PM (if I could find them here lol)
Even if he gives the number, Ladies need to check and make sure she has it published before using it to check the reference.
Bone head move on my part y’all! It was a trap- a bunch of y’all p’s ask for it. It won’t happen again! To whom do I owe penance?
My bad as well, lesson learned!! I just thought I was making it easier for the screening process. It will not happen again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tracker7
My question is ..... how are they screening, if their is no connection of the number to the providers? How do they know it’s not the guy on the other end verifying himself?
BUMP. 1000+.
I had one guy who KEPT doing it. Until i just stopped responding. EMAIL ME. OR SEND LINK.
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Originally Posted by Tracker7
The way they have been contacting asking for a reference they probably aren’t screening and is another reason why I don’t want people to have my number! If the provider doesn’t advertise her number there is no way of even screening the provider like you said how do they know that’s even a provider they're texting!Quote:
Originally Posted by SuperHead713
I had a Gent give me three references via PM. All with just phone numbers and no link to their profiles.
One of those, he gave her old handle and not the one she currently uses. - luckily, I knew who he meant.
Only one of the three had her phone number in her profile/sig line. I texted that one and got a reply in a timely manner.
The other two, I PMed. It was quite some time before they replied telling me that they rarely check messages and giving me their numbers for future reference checks.
The numbers they gave did match what he had given me, but it was too late. The wait time between his giving the sparse (and partially incorrect) information and the time that I received replies in the positive for this Gent was so long that, by the time I could "give the green light", he had moved on to more immediately attainable pleasures.
Even though I gave him the "thumbs up" and let him know he is now screened and free to schedule.....I have not heard from him again since. That's $$ lost for me.
And that's the story of the last time I accepted references for screening. LOL
I don't call a provider for references, easier/faster to do my own screening & it eliminates everyone getting into each other's business. :partytime:
One thing you could possibly do in a situation like this is to PM like you did, then send a text to the given number just saying that you sent a PM. If the number is a correct number, then this might speed things up.Quote:
Originally Posted by Krystal_RoseBBW
Usually, its simple to ask the lady to agree for her number to be given out for a reference. This thread made me recall when we met years ago...its time fir a revisit.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dorthy Monroe
Yes.....to the Ladies that accept references for screening, and are willing to spend that extra time that the potential client was not willing to spend by sending the requested information for her screening.... that's a very good idea.Quote:
Originally Posted by NordicJag
My point was that part of why I no longer accept references for screening is that
1) All too often the Gents do not send the correct information so it takes more time to screen but they don't want to wait that long for the screening process.
and 2) Providers are busy and sometimes it takes hours (sometimes days) to get a reply to the reference request and potential clients don't always want to wait that long.
You know what would also be a good idea that would speed things along? For the guys to pay a little more attention to the individual provider's policies/preferences and send the requested correct information to begin with. LOL
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Originally Posted by Krystal_RoseBBW
I ask for providers contact info...meaning email or handle to pm her at
Sorry you had that happened Miss D
Wow, that sucks that happen to you! That is a rookie move.
One of the many reasons why I love P411.....don't ever have to go down this road of sending references etc...
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Originally Posted by quitidid
It’s okay beautifulQuote:
Originally Posted by DallasRain
It’s ok hasn’t happened since I ranted so maybe I taught someone a thing or 2 lolQuote:
Originally Posted by richard fitzwell
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I wish everyone had p411 lol but that would be to easy... A girl likes to dream at least :)Quote:
Originally Posted by El Cubano Libre
That’s it,
I’m coming to tickle you again!
You Wouldn’t Dare :rolling:Quote:
Originally Posted by Tracker7
Well, today I had a AA gent use another AA lady for a reference and well.. go figure she wouldn't give a reference for him, deliberately not helping her fellow AA gent. I felt bad for the gent as this was his only reference.
I always let the guy know once I contact the lady, and ask them to also contact them. But, when you see the lady online you know they saw the pm.
Guys must make sure that the lady is reference friendly, and this applies to all ladies.
My personal issues towards a lady will NEVER stop JJ from being reference friendly. I do it to help the gents I visit with and NOT the lady. I always want the guys I see to know that if they are legit I have their back. The hobby has become rather difficult during these "Screening" times for men. LOL.
^^^Sorry the cock blocker can't be happy for you but she will learn that men WILL see other providers one way or another. I am proof of that & still standing. Life is good.
I think that she is non WM reference friendly since she is a NON WM FS provider (lol maybe it's just me... :rolling:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Universal
IDK. Its okay, after I see him I will allow him to use me as a reference as I stated I do it for the men. Not the ladies.
Good attitude & eXXXcellent business $marts. More money with honey than a sour puss. :love:
Not how or why this thread veered so far in real time (or maybe not so real time) from the SUBJECT line....
so, closed.
A word to the wise:
Those who insist or persist, for that matter, into pushing personal CRAP! into others threads will cease and desist or lose access herein.