So I’ve been having an awesome time meeting my providers but lately I have noticed my last two appointments I fell in love with them. I’m a sucker for fine ladies. I try not to but I can’t help it.
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So I’ve been having an awesome time meeting my providers but lately I have noticed my last two appointments I fell in love with them. I’m a sucker for fine ladies. I try not to but I can’t help it.
if you are in love but there're not reciprocity... bad thing. :oops:
This is the risk of this job, don't loose your head and keep the objectivity.
Who is to tell you it’s wrong. However you just admitted you’re a sucker for the ladies, so is it really love?
I made the mistake of doing it, but I’m finally over it now. Anyway, you feel like you’re in love and it makes you better in the sack, go for it!
You're in love with a persona, a character in a very intimate play where you are the star.
Hard to be in love with someone you've never actually met
It may or may not be wrong but it will likely get expensive :)
I’m quite fond of my ATFs but only one has taken advantage of that fondness. She put short term over long term.
Knott, if I only heard this years ago. Gotta live the mistake to see what you mean.
... the meeting can certainly be love ... but it is fantasy. fun, but not real ... a lot of fun, actually. but still a transaction. easy enough for me to adore a certain type of provider. the ones who bring joy and fun into the encounter. if they give the appearance, the impression, of really enjoying activities. that they are doing exactly what they want to be doing, with me! what a gift! what a service!!!
is she faking it? maybe .. if she is, that's fine. all part of the service. the good ones do this well. I mean, i don't want to be with a lady who doesn't want to be an escort. being with a woman who doesn't enjoy being an escort couldn't be any fun for me. of course ... if she is really good, i would not pick up on that. not sure how many are really that good. i mean, that can't be easy. but if they are that good... and i don't sense it ... then i got what i paid for.
so ... i'm living my erotic, romantic fantasy ... and i'm in love, an hour or two at a time. i don't assume i'm touching the real person. i'm with (insert her handle) and i'm dodger ... those are the folks having the experience. but i'm enjoying the good time that dodger is giving to me!
good providers are wonderful people, imo ... generous enough to share the charms with me! got to love them for that. they make the world, my world, more beautiful, more interesting, more fun!! gotta love them for that.
i've never met her ... but naughty aughty is currently my ideal woman. i have an incredible hobby crush on her! https://home.ourhome2.net/member.php...-NaughtyAughty ... what is not to love about a woman like that! well ... i don't love that she is in SA .. but if she was in ATX ... i might be broke.
It's not morally wrong but it sure is stupid.Quote:
Originally Posted by latin_atx
That's a strong word to use, there are some attractive, smart and amazing ladies here so I don't blame you, but you can't really say that having met them for an hour or two. Love is more that just sex, yes it can be passionate and romantic but you have to leave those feelings at the door when you leave. I like to think I'm friends with a lot of the ladies I see regularly, I enjoy their company and get a long swimmingly, but that's the extent of the relationship. Don't blur the lines.
P.s whoever you saw must have done a number on you lol
+1
You sound young. It’s only a business transaction. You’re paying for the sex. If they were really into you then you wouldn’t have to pay for sex.
:hardhead: You have probably put yourself on several ladies DNS list with this self alert . This is a P4P site NOT Match.com!! As several have mentioned here, this is a business for these ladies. They have their own lives outside the HW. They have BFs, GFs, SOs, etc., and DON’T want or need you bringing your emotional baggage to the table.
Let’s keep it real here OP. For all parties benefit, check your emotions at the door.
Absolutely not.... I fall in love with them... one hour at a time
You are paying them to hang out with you. Do you pay your friends to hang out with you? Have you ever paid a girlfriend to hang out with you? Answer these questions and then ask yourself if "falling in love" helps you if your provider is not willing to transition from a paying companion to a relationship.
Nothing wrong with falling in love! It is the ultimate experience and I love it. I fall in love often and see no harm in it.
I enjoy the high, that Love and affection gives me. It keeps me young and happy!!!
Let us know how that works out for you -Quote:
Originally Posted by latin_atx
my advice is to train your brain to think of it like baskin robins 31 flavors to try...sure you may have your favorite flavor that you really really like, and being human thats normal. But if you get your heart mixed into it with feelings you will just set yourself up for hurting it. Dont kid yourself that just because the provider is a cool girl you can vibe with that she loves you back the same way you are feeling. If she truly did she wouldy tell you keep the money, or she would text you saying do you want to come over for no charge. If she isnt doing those things, what you found is a GREAT provider that is a master of the game making you feel extra special and giving you the sexual attention you have been wanting from a HOT girl, but this is just a way for her to make money, so take the advice others have given you.
Is it wrong to play Russian Roulette with a fully loaded pistol?
How many providers have asked you over and said don’t worry about a donation, I just want to have sex with you?
When a man cares about a woman in a loving relationship he gives her money regardless.....
Without her asking.
I was in college & my boyfriend gave me spending money for gas, food, clothes because HE CARED !!!! Not once did I ask for help. Relationships are about give & take.
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Not everything is about sex.
Uhh.... '3'. Well, technically '4' but I wouldn't normally count that one as she was a stripper friend & eventually my fwb/gf.Quote:
Originally Posted by InTheWind
I know you were being sarcastic to point out the ludicrousness and at the same time I'm also not saying everyone has my experiences or that those are normal expectations in the slightest sense. Not at all.
But, how many people meet their future spouse getting arrested by an officer of the opposite sex? How many people end up meeting a routine fuck buddy at a church function? How many people end up dating the person that broke into their house & got arrested? Yet they DO all happen (however infrequent); and all sorts of other unique situations.
There is nothing "wrong" with it. Nope. Is it the smart thing to open yourself up to? Uh uh :nono:
Let's be clear about something though. Lust, sex, and the desire to touch is NOT the same thing as loving or caring. Simply bc you don't pay for it doesn't mean they, or you, love each other. It just means you like fucking each other (in this case). It's usually best left at that too.
All relationships involve give & take. All of them. Our best friends are people we technically "use". We all "use" each other for *something*. That's the foundation for all relationships. Some form of give/take that is mutually beneficial. The simple fact is that women (or even men) working in this industry are here to make money to pay bills (at least in part). They are using you to pay their bills.
You goto a cell phone store to be sold a phone. You goto a car dealer to be sold a car. A realtor sells you a house. In all these cases they are using you to get their bills paid as you are the paying customer & you are using them to get something you need or desire. Sound familiar? :wink: Now, does that mean that at times you or they don't wish to do other things together, entertain the idea of a traditional date, or just become friends b/c you have common interests? Of course all those things can & do happen! That's exactly how people meet! :smile:
The point here though is this isn't a dating site. Just like a car dealer or cell phone shop or a clerk at a bookstore isn't one either. They are not there to be part of a dating game. That doesn't mean the dynamics of human relationships do not also apply. They do. They apply there and they apply here. They apply anywhere that two people can interact. Period.
I think your question is better asked like this:
"Should I entertain the idea that my fav provider could be a potential partner, or treat them as someone I could try to 'court'?".
Answer: Probably not in most cases.
The nature of this hobby is that it produces powerful hormones & neurotransmitters like oxytocin, produced by human touch, which increase our feelings of attraction & closeness. You need to learn to recognize that very much the way teens or college aged people have to learn that a breakup isn't the end of the world and that much of what they feel was built on hormones and not "real" stuff that makes a relationship solid.
However, all this being said, is it *wrong*? No. It's not wrong. It's just not at all smart to treat this like a dating service or hope that you can turn a paid tryst into a relationship by means of unrequited affection.
You probably don't even want to in most cases if you really look deeper beneath the hormones & the feel good oxytocin excitement. Really think about it.
What do they provide you? Does their intellect match yours? Are they interested in the same things? Do you like to do anything else together? Watch movies? Have similar humor? Do you have similar life goals? Or do you even know? Is it all based only on sexual trysts? I can virtually guarantee that's just oxytocin talking for you in such a case. :peace: :cheers: :thumb:
OP, maybe what’s really going on is that you’re “falling in lust”? Big difference between love and lust!
Every single time I go to the vet with my pomeranians - I open the door and I hear that song "back in love again." He is the nicest guy and he looks like he just stepped out of GQ magazine-- I have to stop my self from swooning. But when I leave it's over........until next time! So no, there is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone as long as you know when to stop.
You said, it Sweetie! Every time I've fallen in love for longer than the session, it has led to nothing but heartache and severe depression on my part. But each to their own. Some people may be tougher/mentally stronger than me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Austin Ellen
I can’t believe I actually made it through one of your posts from start to finish. This is the best thing I’ve read from you, MG.Quote:
Originally Posted by mathguy
This is such a weird post that I'm not sure it was meant to be taken seriously. How do you "fall in love" with someone you don't actually know? I like the woman who cuts my hair: she's friendly, attractive, and (most importantly) she knows how to cut hair. She provides a service to me and I pay her for it. Sure, we interact with each other well enough when I'm sitting in her chair, but it's not like I entertain thoughts of continuing that interaction beyond the confines of the appointment. I don't know her, she doesn't know me, and even if I were to get 100 haircuts from her, that wouldn't change. How could I possibly fall in love with her?Quote:
Originally Posted by latin_atx
What is love? (Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me)
But seriously, I think the point of contention was summed up nicely by another reply to the thread, that the author may have "fallen in lust" and is describing it as love.
Everyone has a different definition of what love is, and I think those who are inexperienced often make the mistake of conflating lustful infatuation with love.
This may not be the case in authors situation, but the only way to know would be to ask:
What is love? (To original author)
If she won't pop the pimples on your back.
Kick her to the curb.
No one needs that kinda drama in their life
This is the creepiest post I've seen! (Besides the man looking for teens)
Dude!!! Contact the lady, make an appt, F***, then leave.
Next!!!
We are not "falling in love" with every man we see....
Geez!!?
Maybe he means the Lady wants him:Quote:
Originally Posted by petitesexylady
Wants him to stop calling
Wants him to stop stalking
Wants him to go away
:smile:
Hahahaha!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Precious_b
Did the IP fall in love? If so, how’s that working out?
This!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Austin Ellen
Nothing wrong with falling in love, you two may enjoy being together more.
NEXT!
I am speaking from personal experience.Quote:
Originally Posted by latin_atx
In Greek Mythology you have the story of Icarus. Icarus and his father attempted to escape from Crete by means of wings that his father constructed from feathers and wax. Icarus' father warns him first of complacency and then of hubris, asking that he fly neither too low nor too high, so the sea's dampness would not clog his wings nor the sun's heat melt them. Icarus ignored his father's instructions not to fly too close to the sun; when the wax in his wings melted he tumbled out of the sky and fell into the sea where he drowned, sparking the idiom "don't fly too close to the sun".
So on the subject of a relationship with a provider, and getting to close, outside the confines of the Client / Provider relationship; "Careful Icarus....don't fly too close to the sun".
Remember falling in love makes you do crazy things like;
Becoming jealous which leads to stalking, which leads to anger and feelings hurt for the weak hobbyist.
On the other side of crazy is spending way too much money trying to get her to fall in love with you. I believe many hobbyist fall in this category here:)
There is no room for falling in love in this hobby in my opinion.
This is a hobby that you should be able to take it or leave it.
This hobby should allow you to act out a fantasy that you can’t get at home. Where you can just get after it without all the preliminaries of trying to get where you want.
Remember, providers are here to make money and hobbyist are here to pay and play.
IMO
Have a great Thanksgiving :)
It's been mentioned that this is not a dating site, but it's all in how you think about it. As a person who would very much love to have a partner who enjoys intimacy with other men, it's pretty much the perfect environment for me to meet women into the same kinks as myself. I like to see providers specifically because they DO have sex with other guys. When I have a visit with someone from here I certainly don't assume or immediately hope she might be "the one", but who's to say what might happen some day?
don't be cap't save-a-ho.