I have had this happen frequently lately. It is irritating. If you do this, I will slap your hand :) Every provider is different, I'm sure some won't mind... If you enjoy doing this, you can see one of them instead.
Besos,
Alyssa
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I have had this happen frequently lately. It is irritating. If you do this, I will slap your hand :) Every provider is different, I'm sure some won't mind... If you enjoy doing this, you can see one of them instead.
Besos,
Alyssa
I Will Do It... 💋💋💋
I love it.. when they put they're hands on my head...
It means I'm doin a great job...😋😋😋 & I Really love it when I'm told they're about to Cum too...🤩😍🤩😍
Ooh Yes, Them Too...☺️☺️
And Been Thinking, I Want to Hook Up With A Girl... It Would BeThe First Time...But I Hope It Will Be Fun And I Would Want To Do It Again...
Interesting topic. I bet MathGuy has a formula which explains the friction coefficient impact such "assistance" has.
In the meantime, we all have our likes and dislikes when it comes to physical gratification, and so I would not judge you on your preferences. I would, however, judge you on how you respond. I have NEVER heard or read of negative reinforcement working when it comes to sexual behavior; all the experts suggest using positive reinforcement to achieve the desired result. Words like "no" or "don't" will not go over well and should be reserved for serious safety concerns. Head bobbing is likely a signal to change pace, so a possible approach would be tell him to put is hands on your ______ because it turns you on, and try to mimic the pace he wanted. Good partners pick up on your signals, spoken or otherwise.
When I flip the script, I love it during DATY when a lady grabs my hair, presses me harder against her, and also when she shoves me away due to tenderness, as it indicates a job well done.
But to each their own...I do agree that finding partners whose style suits you is key to great hobby experiences.
I do not touch the Lady's head unless she wants it. When I dine at the Y and the Lady touches my head and caresses my scalp I know I am doing a good job.
Instead of slapping their hand just tell them nicely beforehand not to do it.
Thanks for the PSA. It helps mongers make informed decisions.
That's fair. Different strokes for different folks. I've had providers grab my hand and put it behind their head and insist I push down. Different strokes.
I appreciate ALL feedback & response to what I'm doing from the Gents. Hands on the head tell me 1) Whether he's enjoying and 2) The pace he wants in the moment.
As long as he let's up when I need to pull away and doesn't force....I'm ALL kinds of good with hands in my hair and on my head.
"The friction coefficient impact such "assistance" has" is invaluable! :rolling:
If it's asked and okayed a ff is ok. If not, then no. And that aggressive shit don't ride with me. There is a time and place for everything!
I usually lightly massage her back or hold her hair back for her
Just to psychoanalyze for a minute. Guys love us to push their face into our vagina from the back of their heads. Studies show people do what they want done to them. So they may not mean to do anything wrong or aggressive or demeaning as they want to feel our hands pushing the back of their heads.
I don't know about some or most providers but I find that.
#1 a really good "I'm about to really cum" pussy eating doesn't need me to push his head because I would make him dig in, cause pain and it would be over quite honestly.
#2 if he isn't doing a good job at all I may push his head hoping he changes something. Then the face digging hard may cause pain.
#3 some guys want and desire to make us excited so me knowing that, and they think pushing the head means I'm over the moon, I do it. I'm here to fulfill your fantasy.
Now I have had times that it was slow go and felt amazing and I lightly ran my fingers through the back of his head as in, yesssss that's so good don't change a thing.
I guess I may also be helping MG out. :bouncing:
Great point Anna. We are all different and it is not helpful to assume bad intentions. I have had providers tell me they prefer DATY slow and soft and others who like a full-blown oral assault. Just tell me and I am happy to oblige...I want YOU to enjoy receiving as much as I do giving.
During a bbj if I look up & he's just looking down I actually encourage the guy to pull my hair !
& I love the head jerking around it's hot to be used like a toy!;
I think personally communication is the key. This is supposed to be a pleasant experience for both parties. Certain people have kinks and that's understandable, but I personally never want a woman to be uncomfortable at all. Just because I'm providing a donation doesn't give me the liberty or desire to abuse her boundaries.
I don't mind the touching or even setting the pace. FORCIBLY HOLDING me down WILL result in my sharp teeth being inserted deeply and painfully into you. ⚠️ Keep in mind where your mini-me is and how vulnerable its friends are when you try, some of us are not afraid of you... ️⚠️
Everyone is different & what turns off some might turn others on.For example , I've never provided GFE bbj.
Was I the only one thinking of the 'Love Contract' from Chappelle's Show while reading this?
While I believe I have a higher than normal sex drive, I am not a sex addict per say. I'm not into taboo to much. I love some good passionate GFE. And while most say these things on the board I believe few are actually into a lot they do for money. But I believe you. And that's great. But 99% of us are not into it weather we allow it or not. As I say, the client should ask for ff, ask if his hand on back of the head is ok. Hell those times I'm like YEP. Respect can be had even in the hobby.
Now these guys who know you and love this, you are giving them the green light where many if us aren't.
Lot's of us GFE less taboo providers aren't boring. We just need to meet our matches. I actually have a great following of regulars whom I enjoy very much. And they come back again and again.
But you are a rare breed. And I applaud you. Keep doing you. I'll keep being honest and saddened by the fact that we have to remind men that we are real human beings!
Learn her and what she likes and allows gentlemen. And as for me, being a gentleman gets you more!
I think it depends how they are doing it.
Don't push my hair into my face and we are fine. I don't want my hair going into my mouth or eyes.
I don't mind if they hold my head or 'bounce' it because it lets me know the speed he likes or that he is getting into it.
I absolutely agree. One of my biggest pet peeves is when they try to cover my ears I don't so much mind my head because as mentioned above it helps with the speed and how they like it. But when they're covering my ears back and forth with their hands is just something that I don't care for.
Yes. There is a gent in particular that I put on my no see list for busting my lip during a bj. This is a definite no no guys! There should be no visible blood after a BJ. LOL.
Oh wow I totally missed this thread with some of the humor at my expense :lol: Very funny Ben and gals :tongue:
I don't quite get that detailed in my research or the study of or application of intimate activities.... bwahaha :giggles:
Anyway, in all seriousness I totally understand the majority of the girls POV. I don't usually like to hold, touch, or move my partners head during a BJ. U won't say I've never ever touched her head, of course I have. Maybe if she sorta motioned me to do it OR if I got particularly horny or in that mood; however even then I have never ever been anywhere even remotely as rough as what has been described by some of the girls! Wow :shocked: Bleeding? Rug burn? Holy fuck! :shocked:
My preference is a completely, or nearly completely (i.e. >80% of it), hands free BJ if I'm being pedantic about exactly what I just absolutely "love". It's just really sexy b/c it's all lips & tongue. A BJ with 50% or more hand activity is just a fancy handjob isn't it? Hah :tongue: I'm not gonna knock those who like it. We all like different things. For me I love a woman that just puts it in her mouth and let's it come alive; and if she can handle doing that with very little hands that's super hot! I mean don't get me wrong, a BJ is good no matter what.
And, again, this one isn't to throw any shade at anyone either, but I really don't understand the obsession with FF (very similar to the discussion DM brought up regarding the... ummm... "fartbox" bwahaha :pound:). Especially really hard FF where your hands are aggressively pulling her head and you're literally "fucking her face ferociously and forcefully". Yikes! :shocked:
I really just don't get it. I don't like to see that. A woman shoykd not have loads of tears, makeup, gagging uncontrollably, or dang near vomiting. Not for me... uh uh. Nope. It seems like one of those acts which is rooted in debasement, shame, and humiliation.
I'm not saying it actually IS. Please fellas, or even ladies who happen to like it, don't get upset. Please. I'm not saying you're a weirdo or anything like that, not at all, but personally it "seems" like that to me and it's just not interesting to me as a result.
It's like cumming on a girl's face or whatever. Once again I'm not saying there is something wrong with you if you like that, I totally realize shit tons of people like it, but personally I don't.
It's just a little too close of a reminder toward the debasement and humiliation side of things (and, one more time, I'm NOT saying that if you like it that's what you are doing -- I just think it somehow originated from those things as porn had to push the envelope). And they're a little too much of that for me personally (as opposed to say really dirty talk, slapping her ass, or even CIM, etc...).
Take CIM for example. That's not to debase. That's done bc it feels immensely pleasurable to a man. That's totally different IMO. I love CIM because it feels so good. In fact almost too good lol. So good I often have to pull away b/c it's sooooo sensitive while cumming, depending on the girl's technique.
But I have zero care at all where the cum ends up. IJS. :noidea: I love to be nasty with a girl that likes it but some of these [relatively] newer acts just seem so aggressive to me or a bit too rooted in a type of humiliation.
I can be nasty. I like it when a girl has that certain side with the dirty talk and the fuck me harder and screaming or yelling and loud moaning and smacking ass, pulling hair if it's desired by her, CIM, I'll lick her ass (dato) like no one's biz if she's very clean (usually while doing daty or something from behind or by going down very very low during mish daty), I will swap fluids all day long with a clean girl that I really like (e.g. kissing passionately after eating/licking each other's parts, etc...). All that stuff. But I just don't like the stuff that reminds me of debasement for the sake of debasement.
I'd probably call my brand of passionate, vigorous, fucking, "respectful yet at the same time, possibly very nasty fucking [depending on dynamics, girls needs/wishes, chemistry...], with mutually consensual acts of filthy dirty talk, erotica, and orgasm producing activities...".
For me it's really all about what she wants. If she really wants me to fuck her in the ass, for example, then I'll do it with a passion (or attempt it). Sure. However, if I do it, it's for her. But yea I'll do it. :usa2:
Sigh...was really hoping to see the formula...