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Being a fairly new provider, less than 9 months... I am curious if you gentleman care to share about your ATF, all time favorite. If it isn't a provider herself that keeps active in your memory bank perhaps the experience is what makes it the most favorite? What did this encounter have that others lack .... There is always room for improvement in everything. Just doing a little research.. chemistry obviously, plays the biggest part I believe. Thoughts?
Chemistry is biggest part...havr a cpl favs...usually do a lot of joking backand forth...of cource great service helps...
My ATF is a smart guy that isn't superficial & will treat me as a person regardless of my job.
Shout out to Willi/\m !!
Thanks Uni!!! Your making me blush.Quote:
Originally Posted by Universal
In regards to the question I think chemistry is the biggest thing. Ive never felt as comfortable or as loved until i was with Universal. I feel like shes one of a kind and its not an experience I can replicate with someone else
Chemistry plays a major part, just the ability to be comfortable and open and enjoy each others company.
I am pretty sure you already know my take on it :lickit:
For me it’s definitely the illusion of passion, slow and passionate, no rushing and the mechanical do what ever you want while I lay here stuff is such a turn off.
I can't believe any provider would actually have sessions like that. I mean my goal is to keep you coming back to see me again and again. That is only happening if we enjoy ourselves. How do the mechanical ones stay working?
If she isn’t atf material I won’t see the lady a second time period. She can get that chemistry right the first time. If she fuqs me good we will get acquainted real well through pillow talk I’m sure. I want someone who’s willing to exhaust any and all means of satisfaction for me same as I would do for them. That’s how I roll.
An “all time favorite” for me when I was younger and under 30 used to mean she was very attractive facially, very curvy, dependable, can perform on top activities with agility and ease primarily like ACG (Asian Cowgirl), sexual stamina who enjoys a lot of sex, youthful appearance or a young look for their age, are mid priced or offer grandfathered rates, and basic GFE service wise at the very least with a PSE attitude.
Nowadays for me as I’ve matured, an atf isn’t so much about looks, body type, or price. Agility, stamina,menu, and overall motivation to perform stand out for me more than anything.
But to be more specific I need a lady that’s built for sexing. An ATF for me now is a NYMPHO or someone who I can please mutually and actually gets off from a long session of lovely oral or a reverse massage, has a wide open service menu usually with few if any noes more than two or three (if more than 3 she ain’t pse), naughty and does pictures and video for my eyes only, is personable and makes me feel like a gentleman and friend and not a mere “trick” trust and business wise, provides variety in positions and rides on top standing on her feet with ease of execution like if her life depended upon it, large amounts of sexual stamina seeming to never get enough, good suction with swallows or BBBJCIMNQNS (well after) with msog as that pops me right back up, cuddles with me and wakes me up herself with sex, inner vagina is smooth and supple, rinse and repeat.
Now if she’s very attractive or her vagina does that keegle muscle squeeze thing I might bend on quite a few things from my criteria above.
But what stands out always now is sexual stamina, performance, menu, and agility. If that stands out everything else always falls into place.
VERY CLEAN, great IOP, very clean, a little on the aggressive side, very clean, lives up to her ads, very clean, likes oral(both ways), very clean, very GFE. Soft feminine chicks are my thing. Age, skin color, height, religion do not bother me. Did I mention I like clean ladies?
Too many chicks advertise one or two things that they don't like. I can tell when we have a date that they are not into things they say they like. If you are not passionate about it or don't like it, don't advertise it.
If you post up pictures, be sure they are up to date.
+1000 Without passion or extremely good IOP the rest doesn’t matter!Quote:
Originally Posted by Warpt
Nail ...head.....hit it ...WARPT...as most can tell by handle...i have a foot fetish...if a lady doesnt like it thats fine...just let me know....no big deal.....just let me know.....AND danm sure dont tell me ya ok with a foot fetish...and have ole nasty ass feet lol....complete turn off
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Like everyone else said, chemistry is the top thing. I've been a hobbyist for a while so I'm not looking to get my rocks off really quickly. I'm looking for intelligent conversation and undivided attention. I don't want to hear about bills, babydaddy drama, or the troubles of your life. I want us to talk about current events, favorite foods. and pastimes. I love body rubs, so I want an actual massage. Not just a flip and jerk. I want you to really care, or at least pretend like you do. My ATF is Sandy from MH. Through all of my years of seeing women she has been like a close friend during our sessions. I know she probable doesn't care who I am, but for that 60 minutes I am all that matters. And that's all that matters to me.
I have to say that I agree about the IOP. I like a lady to respond physically and verbally. The communication is also a big deal. If you’re not available, just say so. It’s not going to hurt my feelings.Quote:
Originally Posted by BrMike1963
Physical attraction is an important component. I hate when they advertise with photos that don’t show the true woman. It’s not that they have to have a perfect body, just don’t manipulate their looks, it’s always a really bad surprise. I also enjoy when they never quit & at least continue to get into it for the entire session. A big turn off for me is when they say they do something that they don’t; at least be honest.
For these reasons and many more Kelly1000 is definitely my ATF so far. I know when she’s available and she always responds in a timely way. Her IOP is great and her dirty talk is always such a turn on for me.
Kelly 1000 is one of my tops for sure
They stay busy because not all guys want a full on pretend date with someone they're paying. Massage parlors and blow and Go are popular for a reason... no guilt, in and out, just a relaxing massage and release.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeidiinBR
They absolutely go back because there's no pretense and the rate is cheaper. As long as her attitude is not mechanical and fake, most don't care about all the other BS.
In short, these guys are not career hobbyists. They just want to get off once a month and not deal with the alphabet soup.
It's really hard to describe, but it is the chemistry. It's little things. Things that we remember that make us want to come back. One lady actually brought me a flower on her first visit. Didn't know me from Adam's house cat. Never had that happen before or since. I still remember.
Another remembered what she was able to discern about my preferences in what she wore. One just really connected with things we shared in common outside the hobby (without needing to disclose personal identification). Sometimes it's the provider trusting me after a while to let me more fully pay attention to her needs and meet them. It's complex.
To providers, I'd just say stick with what works for you. While its vitally important to maintain boundaries, be genuine. Listen and share within established hobby boundaries. In terms of BDC skills, I may be in a minority in saying this, but if you focus in what activities you enjoy most, are willing to gently guide the guy to participate in things you like, and be perceptive of his responses to you, chances are good that he will consider you among his short list of ATFs.
Appearance matters more than age or body build. The guy will probably have taken that into account in scheduling the session in the first place. By appearance, I mean grooming, cleanliness, appropriate choice of clothing for arrival (if outcall). If your website photos are current and accurate that helps. Avoid distractions like taking calls or texting during the session.
Also know that for those of us who travel, we may only get to see you once, but if the encounter is fabulous, you become an ATF and we do share that experience by reviews or back channel within the hobby. First impressions do matter.
Just a few thoughts . . .
Heidii, I was hoping to make you my atf! I felt like we had great chemistry. Hopefully one day you'll return to SA for a visit.
Be genuine, well said.
Stone_ I was there and we did have amazing chemistry ❣️. I am moving back just not sure if it will be before baby or after...baby is end of NovemberQuote:
Originally Posted by Stonesouth210
chemistry and connection is key to success in a mind blowing play partner!
great question OP!!
I have been in the hobby for six years, and only in the last 2 months have I found my first ATF. I travel for work frequently, so I have experienced the nuances that comes with different regions of the mainland.
I have had great, mediocre, and horrible experiences, as I suspect most here have.
What I enjoy most is similar as mentioned above, chemistry, cleanliness, IOP, and accurate advertising.
Beyond that, I also seek sarcasm, intelligence, quick wittedness, dark humor, metalheads, confidence, and a good mix of dominance and compliance.
As for my only ATF, I met her at a club, chatted for a while, then said I had a fellatio appointment coming up, and would return later. Her eyebrows shot up, repeated "fellatio" and asked if I wanted her number. Well duh!
Prior to meeting this beautiful young lady, I might see someone I liked a second time, and rarely a third.
The new lady had all of the qualities listed above, and was very untraditional in meetings; which lasted 3-7 hours, walks through town, on the beach, cooking dinner for me, Netflix and youtube browsing, bcd activities, massages, and finding time to watch sunrises/sunsets.
Sadly, I only got to visit 9 times before going home 4,000 miles away.
No expectations to find anything like that again, but if a lady at least has the primary qualifications above, I'll be looking them up for a round two for sure.
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Originally Posted by Kimberly Kisses
I'd disagree some, I like AMPs and it has zero to do with money, I actually see at least one of them weekly. I love asian chicks, I have several that I follow and actually see outside their place of business, we often have dinner and drinks. All 3 offer me something different depending on my mood but most importantly its hassle free and they actually are compassionate and not watching the clock the whole time.
Most asians are docile and submissive in general, that's why lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by IBackdoor20
I'm speaking from what I know personally from certain guts, not for anyone I have never met.
These guys are rarely on review boards either.
I'd replace docile and submissive with kind and gentle, big difference, for me anyway.
Your second sentence lost me, not sure what you were trying to say.
They review plenty, just not where you are. You couldn't be any more wrong.
I've been doing this for 40 yrs, absolutely a way of life for me and its a weekly thing, always has been.
I'm not talking about YOU or your personal experiences!Quote:
Originally Posted by IBackdoor20
My second sentence was supposed to read "Guys" not guts, so I see the confusion.
You don't know the guys I'm even referring to because they're not on the boards, so how could you possibly say what they do or how wrong I am?
I'm sorry, didn't know you were there with us during private time. These men don't go around talking about their escapades with anyone, much less a bunch of strangers.
I'm not commenting on what you like or think. I don't know you. I'm talking about personal experiences and what guys have discussed with me, not guys in general. I don't see but one a week usually, so you're right, I'm not an old hand at this.
Peace