Originally Posted by
britttany_love
The only question that I saw from your original post was this:
My question for you ladies that don't see African American men is, why don't you?
As I said before, I respect every ladies preference to choose who she wants to spend her time with or give her body to. I am asking the question because I am honestly curious about the reasons why.
It appears you got a lot of reasons and answers to your question in many replies. There is really not a single reason or answer as it is up to each individual lady as to why she will or won't see someone. Just like you have said you respect a ladies right to choose who she spends her time with, you also must respect her right to not have to give you an explanation for her doing so. If she put it clearly in her ad No AA then that is enough info for you to know that ya"ll arent a good match. Although blunt and quite frankly a turn off for many she is being honest and not wasting anyone's time. A few reasons that have come up as to why or that I have seen:
-some it is a race issue
-the size of their penis
-they feel they are a pimp or have thug like tendencies
-other clients will not see them because they see AA
-they haggle or rip them off
-the boyfirend/husband does not want them seeing AA clients
-personal tastes and preferences (no physical attraction)
-medical reason (feel they are more at risk of catching certain STDs based on statistics) another bs claim.
I have seen over the years numerous ads that do have the NO AA comment but only once or twice (and seems more common with in the last couple of years) have I seen it along with the no pimps/thugs line. A pimp or thug can be found in any race but unfortunately most are found to be AA so it just kind of gets slapped together by some people. You can blame a lot of things for that.. start with Hollywood and movies always portraying pimps as ghetto black dudes, talking and acting like thugs, acting violently, beating up and mistreating their '******s'.. it's sad but after it is constantly portrayed that way and about men of color then people start seeing that as how it is. The media is another huge contributor to this kind of bullshit. Open a paper or turn on the tv.. the headlines are always about some AA guy who was fighting with the cops, murdered someone, gang violence, drug deal bust, committed an assault, robbed something and so on. There are just as many White, Hispanic, Asian.. etc that do these same things but they aren't what gets the attention. No it is not right and no it isn't fair.
A shitty flaw but unfortunately every single human being casts judgement towards another. Not a single person is not guilty of doing this. People judge people everyday...for the way they look, their body type, the way they dress, how they carry themselves, the job they have, who they date, the money they have, where they live, who they associate with, the things they do, the views they have and so on. It's sad that things like these happen but its part of life and most of the time is out of our control and we are only wasting our time worrying about the bullshit. You as a person decide if you let this bother you or if you brush it of and move on.
One thing I will say since you have mentioned you are new. If you don't deal with judgement very well then I will say the hobby world might not be for you.
I have seen more judgement, hate, and prejudice in the hobby and by other members of the community than many would ever experience out in the real world. You need some thick skin to deal with much of what we have to deal with.